To minimize risk of
exposure to and spread of the COVID-19 virus and COVID-19 variants, I am
continuing to suspend in-person hypnotherapy sessions with me in my office.
Meanwhile, phone, and Zoom consultations ARE and WILL REMAIN AVAILABLE!
(This blog was originally posted on July 10, 2014)
Passive-aggressive
behavior is one of the most common ways that we sabotage ourselves. According
to developmental psychologist Erik Erikson, it usually
starts very early in life: between the ages of 3 and 6 years old (although as
young as 18 months is possible). During this time, which Erikson characterized
as the play-age/loco-motor stage of development, a child is learning the
difference between right and wrong behavior, on his or her way to learning to
become independent.
To facilitate
healthy development at this stage, Erikson believed that children should be
encouraged to be creative and use their imagination when they play. In
addition, they should be allowed to play adult roles and assert their
individuality by taking initiative and doing things on their own. Otherwise, they
may develop a sense of guilt and believe that everything they do is “wrong.” When
children are not allowed or is discouraged from expressing their feelings, they
may try to punish their parents for causing this discomfort. When they continue
this behavior as adults, however, they become the object of this punishment,
Erikson warned.
“A
passive-aggressive person first believes that asserting himself will cause him
pain, so he backs off from people who challenge him,” John Kappas, Ph.D., explained. However,
even if the individual initially seems very passive and cooperative, the
objective in this behavior is to teach someone a lesson. Passive-aggression is
self-sabotaging and is at the passive-aggressive person’s expense, such as
quitting a job before being fired, the Hypnosis
Motivation Institute explained.
For example,
even if a person wants to have a successful career in a specific vocation, he
or she may find reasons to not pursue this goal. The individual may decide that
it is taking too long to achieve that goal, even though the person is already
very good at this job. It may even be true that he or she could earn more money
doing something else instead of wasting precious time learning pre-requisite
skills to advance and achieve the desired career. But that is what the
conscious mind—the area of will-power/free will, decision-making, reason and
logic—says. This is what the subconscious mind, which still follows an
early-life subconscious mental script, says: “You will never be good/talented/smart enough
to do that.” This belief is the actual reason why the person will actually walk
away from that “dream” job.
My role as this
person’s hypnotherapist would be to change his or her mental script by helping
to increase his or her self-confidence and perception of self-worth. I would
also help the individual change the passive-aggressive tendencies to assertiveness
by setting realistic career goals, following through with goals and reinforcing
his or her new self-confidence (behaviors and beliefs). Finally, I would teach
my client about the Mental
Bank Concept and incorporate it in the person’s daily life to reinforce
these new behaviors and perception (belief) of self-worth.
For more
information about passive-aggressive behavior, read my blog titled “Passive-Aggressive
Behavior.” You can also find out more about how the Mental Bank process
works in my July 7, 2014 blog titled “Introduction
to the Mental Bank Concept” or watch the free online video about this topic
at http://www.hypnosis.edu/streaming/#Mental-Bank-Program.
Sara R. Fogan,
C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California.
She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. In July 2019 and
in September 2020 she was voted the Best Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita,
California. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up
an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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Hi, there. I am Tom Neil and I wish to describe how life had been for my younger brother living with schizophrenia and how he had been permanently able to conquer this debilitating malady via a naturopathic, herbal method.
ReplyDeleteMaicon - my kid brother was twenty years old when he was brought to the emergency room by the campus police of the college from which he had been suspended several months ago. A professor had called and reported that he had walked into his classroom, accused him of taking his tuition money, and refused to leave.
Although he had much academic success as a teenager, his behavior had become increasingly odd during the past year. He quit seeing his friends and no longer seemed to care about his appearance or social pursuits. He began wearing the same clothes each day and seldom bathed. He lived with several family members but rarely spoke to any of them. When he did talk to them, he said he had found clues that his college was just a front for an organized crime operation. He had been suspended from college because of missing many classes. My sister said that she had often seen him mumbling quietly to himself and at times he seemed to be talking to people who were not there. He would emerge from my room and ask my family to be quiet even when they were not making any noise.
My father and sister told the staff that Maicon's great-grandmother had had a serious illness and had lived for 30 years in a state hospital, which they believed was a mental hospital. Our mother left the family when Maicon was very young. She has been out of touch with us, and they thought she might have been treated for mental health problems.
Maicon agreed to sign himself into the psychiatric unit for treatment. The whole family except I had agreed to have Maicon transferred to a mental asylum. I knew inwardly there was still some plausible means by which my kid brother could overcome this condition. I knew botanical means of treatment will be more favorable than any other type of treatment, and as such, I had taken a keen interest in the research of naturopathic alternative measures suitable for the treatment of schizophrenia. I had pleaded for some little patience from the family in the delay of the transfer, I was looking forward to proving a point to the entire family, of a positive botanical remedy for this condition.
It was during my ceaseless search on the internet I had been fortunate enough to come across Dr. Utu Herbal Cure: an African herbalist and witch doctor whose professional works had majored on the eradication of certain viral conditions, especially schizophrenia, ( improving the memory capacity positively), via a traditional, naturopathic process and distinguished diet plan. It was by the administration of this herbal specialist that my brother had been able to improve his condition for better.
Before the naturopathic remedy - Maicon's story had reflected a common case, in which a high-functioning young adult goes through a major decline in day-to-day skills. Although family and friends may feel this is a loss of the person they knew, the illness can be treated and a good outcome is possible.
My brother Maicon is just like many other patients out there suffering from this disease. Although he was able to overcome this condition via a naturopathic herbal remedy administered by this African herbal physician and saved completely thus, rekindling the lost joy which had been experienced by the family members.
I wish to use this opportunity to reach across to anyone who may happen to be diagnosed with this disastrous condition to spread the hope of an everlasting herbal remedy that is capable of imposing a permanent end to this disease.
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