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According to John Kappas, Ph.D.,
“Emotional rejection is the worst kind of addiction you can have.” The Hypnosis
Motivation Institute founder liked to employ the double-arm raising
technique to facilitate the release of extreme emotions such as jealousy
because it help change the client’s receptiveness to his or her relationship
crisis.
As I explained in my previous blog titled Right
Brain/Left Brain, the left part of the body is controlled by the right
hemisphere (half) of the brain while the right part of the body is controlled by
the left hemisphere. Furthermore, the right hemisphere associated with the
emotional response and the left hemisphere is associated with logic. The goal
of a double-arm-raising technique is to replace the extreme emotional (jealousy)
response to the break-up with a more logical perspective about the end of the
relationship.
To demonstrate how this technique works, the hypnotherapist worked with
a high-physical sexual male client who was extremely jealous of his estranged
wife’s new romantic partner. As the client’s raised left arm began to lower and
the right arm started to elevate, the subconscious mind received the message
that extreme emotion would go down. Meanwhile
the rising right arm reinforced the subconscious message that a logical,
detached response to the break-up would enable him to release feelings for the
partner and let go of the relationship.
“You made your decision to release the pain and jealousy and deal with
it logically and effectively,” Dr. Kappas suggested. “The hurt dissipates and
you logically see the [relationship] as it is.” The hypnotherapist followed up
this technique with staircase visualization to reinforce the transference
suggestion in the client’s subconscious mind. “There isn’t anything negative in
the past, just situations and circumstances. You’ve learned from those
conditions and you’ll carry them forward.”
He advised that future hypnotherapy sessions with this client would
include increasing his self-confidence and working to further reduce jealousy
and anger.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified
hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors
from the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in 2005. For more
information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an
appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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