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I
was born and spent the first few years of my life in the Midwest. I can still
remember the way the clouds turned pea-green, almost the color of bile, in a
summer sky just before they erupted into a big thunderstorm. There is nothing
like the booming and cracking sounds of thunder during one of those Super-Cell
thunder storms, and I was terrified of that thunder. My mother would comfort me
when I got scared; when I got a little older she taught me how to count the
seconds between flashes of lightning and the rumble of thunder so I could
determine how far away the storm was getting. At the time, this technique gave
me an illusion of having control over the weather, I guess. It was certainly
distracting—at least until a burst of thunder crackled at the same time a
bright fork of lightning lit the sky brighter than the sunniest day. That
combination was too much for me and would send me diving under my covers or
under a bed for protection.
Just
when I was finally almost over my fear, I happened to watch two television
shows that featured a thunderstorm in the storyline. The first was a movie
about Frankenstein’s monster, or it had something to do with Frankenstein, but
not the original story. I stopped watching the show right after the scene in
which a prisoner was hoisted to the top of a mast on a ship during a
thunderstorm: lightning flashed, thunder boomed and then only a skeleton
remained where the prisoner’s body had been. Equally traumatic for me was an
episode of the 1960s’ television series, Please
Don’t Eat the Daisies. In it, the main characters sit out a tremendous
storm called “The Big Train.” During this storm, which occurs every 10 years
according to the legend, someone “disappears” and is never heard from or seen
again. The family survived the event unscathed, but not my nerves. These shows
almost permanently derailed my progress to overcome this fear.
John
Kappas, Ph.D., the founder of the Hypnosis Motivation Institute, postulated
that people learn every one of their beliefs and behaviors except for two: a
fear of loud noises and a fear of falling. This leaves us plenty of opportunity
to learn how to manage these reactions—or not. Maybe. Sort of? Since I
completed my hypnotherapy training at HMI, I realize that my original fear of
storms was originally a phobia since, at the time, I had never personally
experienced lethal danger from a big storm. First, I watched those
programs on television when I was probably less than eight years old. I would
have been very suggestible at that age since the capacity for logic, powers of
reasoning, decision-making and will-power had still not fully developed in my
conscious mind. Combine that factor with the natural fear of loud noises with
which everyone is born, I was understandably terrified by what I saw
happen/heard about happening during big storms. It would be a natural next step
to develop a phobia about them. Like kids tend to do, I would try to distract
myself from my distress during severe weather with cookies and milk or by eating
a bowl of ice cream during a storm. Ironically—and unbeknownst to me at that
time—I was more likely exacerbating my symptoms of anxiety when I turned to
these sugary snacks for comfort. (For more information about the relationship
between nutrition and development of a phobia, check out my January 14, 2014
blog titled “Nutrition and Hypnotherapy.”)
Another
thing that really helped to ameliorate my anxiety during and about storms—which
I actually started to do back then—was to learn about how, when and why they
formed. When I found out that the sound of thunder is a by-product of lightning
and not the other way around, the loud noise stopped scaring me so much. I pored
over information about them in Encyclopedia
Britannica; I watched documentaries about extreme weather on Leonard
Nimoy’s In Search of series. Eventually,
after repeated virtual exposure (systematic desensitization) to big storms via
television documentaries about them, my fear turned to fascination and even
exhilaration when I heard thunder. I learned which precautions I should take
during a storm—stay indoors and away from windows, avoid using electric appliances,
don’t swim or take a bath or shower, etc., so I could stay safe during them. (I
still haven’t worked up the nerve to find out if that legend about The Big
Train is more than an urban myth, though.)
During
the summer, even Southern California gets its share of extreme weather.
Electric storms typically pop up in the local mountains and deserts, triggering
flash floods and warnings about severe weather that could affect nearby
regions. Occasionally, these storms also hit valley and beach communities; and
on July 27, 2014, lighting killed one person and injured twelve others at
Venice Beach when a freak storm blew in from the ocean. That news chilled me to
the bone and instantly revived my old anxiety about being caught in
thunderstorms. I have even had a few close calls myself. The first time, I was
riding in a car when forked lightning almost hit the hood (bonnet) of the
vehicle, thus transforming my phobia into a legitimate fear of thunder storms.
The second time, a bolt struck a commuter jet I was flying in to Chicago. Obviously,
I survived both events and was apparently never in any real danger either time.
But the people who were affected by the storm that hit that Southern California
beach community a few days ago were not so lucky, and I am truly sorry for their
pain and unspeakable loss.
Sara
R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern
California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/
