(This blog was originally posted on September 5, 2015)
A
lot of the time, the way we deal with a stressful situation comes down to our
attitude about what is going on. If we believe a minor inconvenience is a major
disaster, we are likely to behave like it is. As soon as we perceive a threat
in the environment, the subconscious mind goes into fight/flight mode, kicking
the adrenal system will kick into high gear and flooding the bloodstream with
adrenaline. Whether we are more likely to run away or stand up to the challenge
and try to change the outcome of the situation depends a lot on our expectations
about that outcome, based on our subconscious life script. If we can change
these expectations, we can also change our behavioral response to that
situation and the outcome of that scenario.
One
version of this philosophy is a quote from the film Barbarosa: “What
cannot be remedied must be endured.” In other words, if we cannot change or
improve our circumstances, we may still get through the challenge with minimal physical
and emotional distress by gritting our teeth and ploughing through. Don’t make
any waves or draw attention to yourself, just do whatever you need to do to deal
with the situation until our luck improves. Alternatively, we can follow the
Mother Superior’s advice to Maria in The Sound of Music: Climb
every mountain. If and when we encounter an obstacle along our journey to
fulfilling a dream or achieving a goal, continue to push forward toward your
goal. Look for alternative strategies and different paths that you can take to
get where you want to be.
In
his book titled Success Is Not an
Accident: The Mental Bank Concept, Hypnosis
Motivation Institute founder John
Kappas, Ph.D. explains how a person’s subconscious mental script and subconscious
messages ultimately influence how and where the individual will direct energy
and effort to realize a goal. Everyone has the power to achieve a goal, Dr.
Kappas says, if the “correct” mental script for that success—like a road map or
a recipe—is available and in place for the person to follow. However, if you
don’t possess a subconscious mental script that compels you to pursue a goal
when times are tough, repeated exposure (experience) to negative outcomes may further jade your optimism about the
likelihood of achieving the success you desire.
Hypnotherapy and
therapeutic guided imagery can help you rewrite those negative mental scripts
and help you to see that silver lining in the darkest of clouds. Remember:
every belief and behavior you have learned can also be unlearned. Hypnosis is an effective, drug-free and natural way to
help you override (i.e., unlearn) that previous mental script and override
negative habits or beliefs that no longer work for you. so you can start living
the kind of life you want and deserve to be living.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a
certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with
honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more
information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/
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