I am continuing to suspend in-person hypnotherapy sessions with me in my office. However, phone, and Zoom consultations ARE and WILL REMAIN AVAILABLE!
(This blog was originally posted on January 14, 2015)
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Sometimes, emotional pain or intense
disappointment because something didn’t go our way can lead to self-criticism
and self-recrimination (self-blame). Rather than direct our negative emotion
toward the cause or source of this pain, we turn on ourselves. For example,
have you ever told yourself that the reason a romantic partner ended the
relationship with you was because you were unattractive and actually “unworthy”
of his or her love? Have you ever scolded yourself for being unskilled and “hopeless”
at your job when a relatively new, junior colleague got the pay-raise or
promotion you deserved after you landed that big account? Or, have you ever
blamed yourself for “doing something stupid” that resulted in an injury while
playing your favorite sport or doing a maintenance project around the house? If
so, you have turned against yourself, which is a form of defense
mechanism.
I previously touched on this phenomenon
in my blog titled Stop! Negative Self Talk. Every time we disparage ourselves we
create powerful, negative subconscious messages about ourselves that undermine
our self-confidence and self-esteem. Since the subconscious mind doesn’t know
the difference between fantasy (imagination) and reality, thinking or speaking
these negative beliefs in a moment of pique cause equal damage.
Like other defense mechanisms, turning against self is: 1) unconscious;
2) self-deceptive; 3) and it distorts reality through thoughts and action. According to the Hypnosis
Motivation Institute
founder John Kappas, Ph.D.’s Theory of Mind, people are subconsciously motivated
to maintain and/or restore a known physical
and emotional status of comfort and security. Whenever someone says or does
something that causes physical injury, hurts your feelings or challenges your
beliefs, your mind automatically tries to compensate for this threat or “pain”
by activating this or another form of defense mechanism. In this case, you turn
against yourself to avoid having to experience the pain of rejection or
disappointment that someone else caused you.
To help someone change this behavior, while
the client is in hypnosis I desensitize him or her to the situation (and similar situations) that
triggered this defense mechanism. I also employ
therapeutic guided-imagery techniques to help them reframe their negative
beliefs and self-recrimination to positive thoughts that are self-nurturing and
promote self-love and self-confidence. Finally, I use imagery techniques to enable the individual to
find solutions for those situations and visualize how they have overcome this
setback and which lessons they learned from this experience have increased
self-confidence and social coping skills.
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Sara
R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern
California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. Sara has been
voted the Best Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita, California, four years in a row
(2019-2022). For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up
an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/
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