To minimize risk of
exposure to and spread of the COVID-19 virus and COVID-19 variants, I am
continuing to suspend in-person hypnotherapy sessions with me in my office.
Meanwhile, phone and Zoom consultations ARE and WILL REMAIN AVAILABLE!
(This blog was originally posted on August 18, 2014)
Photo by Rick Hustead
In
a way, some instances of reconstructive surgery is like putting a bandage on a
wound rather than healing the tissue that has been injured. John Kappas, Ph.D.’s Theory
of Mind tells us that we start receiving message units the moment we are
born. Between the ages of five and eight, we start taking these messages
directly into the subconscious mind. Even negative messages that cause
emotional pain, such as criticism about physical appearance or intelligence
will be accepted and integrated to help form our life
script. Negative messages create negative beliefs, and unless or until
those beliefs are replaced with positive ones, our self-image will not improve
even if the physique or appearance changes.
To
further complicate this situation, we are strongly influenced by peers and
social trend as we get older. Society also influences our personal beliefs
about what we think is attractive. Furthermore, should we decide to have
plastic or reconstructive surgery to “fix” a perceived blemish in our
appearance, we still might not think those changes make us look better or more
attractive. If you were constantly criticized about your looks or physique, no
matter how clear your skin is now or how fit you are now, those early beliefs
may still make you doubt what you see in the mirror. Increasing the number or
frequency of reconstructive procedures cannot increase your self-confidence or
self-esteem so long as your mental script believes otherwise.
In
other words, the path to improving your self-image starts with improving that
image—yourself-confidence and self-esteem
from the inside. “Don’t put in
suggestions about being attractive if it’s not true. Give negative suggestions
about negative situations if you were different: i.e., the downside of being
more attractive,” the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute founder suggested. “You have to learn to live with [the way you
look].”
Sara R. Fogan,
C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California.
She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. In July 2019 and
in September 2020 she was voted the Best Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita,
California. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up
an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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