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On Valentine’s Day, many couples around the world are
celebrating their love and relationship. Some people will exchange cards and
love letters. Others will give their partner a box of chocolates and/or a
bouquet of flowers. And, certainly, no other day of the year is more romantic
to become engaged or get married.
In 2005,
I attended an eye-opening seminar at the Hypnosis Motivation Institute about the
keys to a healthy, intimate relationship based on the concepts of John Kappas,
Ph.D.’s Emotional and Physical Sexuality. In this seminar, instructor Marc
Gravelle identified the following seven qualities of a healthy relationship. In
recognition of this international day of love, I am providing this list to help
you evaluate whether you and your partner are ready to take your relationship
to this next level:
1. You
like each other. (This is the most important factor)
2. You
trust each other.
3. You
respect each other.
4. You
have good communication, where you can honestly share your thoughts and
feelings about an issue with the other person.
5. You
have good sex (each partner gets his or her needs met).
6. You
have similar interests.
7. You
have separate interests.
Notice
that the terms “love” and “in love” are not included in this list. That is
because romantic love is what you feel during the honeymoon or early stages of
a relationship. Yes, it is exciting, exhilarating and often intoxicating; but the
high level of energy required to sustain this stage of infatuation eventually wears
away. However, with these seven elements firmly in place, you can still enjoy
and appreciate all of these ingredients (qualities) about your partner that
first attracted you to each other, and your relationship will continue to
flourish.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in
Southern California. She graduated with honors from the
Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about
Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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