Someone posted
this Bern Williams
quote on my Facebook wall recently: “Sooner or later we all quote our mothers.”
Well, of course we do, I immediately thought.
Let me tell you why this is true.
According to Hypnosis Motivation Founder John G. Kappas,
Ph.D., we get our early suggestibility (how we communicate and learn) from how
the primary caretaker (usually the mother) takes care of and interacts with us
during early childhood (birth up to age 5). Words, tone of voice and body
language create suggestibility, he explains. If your mom tended to communicate
with you directly and literally—“You can play with your friends after you have finished your
homework!”—and was consistent in enforcing this instruction, you likely
followed her example with your own kids. Similarly, if she occasionally allowed
you to play first you likely compensated for her inconsistency by trying to
guess or infer what she really meant
when she told you to do something.
Many of us
remember (with fondness or even some consternation) various expressions, terms
of endearment or even chastisement that our mother has said over and over
throughout our lives. Every time she repeated this behavior, those words or
phrases and the behavior(s) they accompanied were reinforced in our
subconscious mind. Over time and with frequent repetition, these associations become
so ingrained in our subconscious life script that we find ourselves responding
to a similar situation the same way mom did or would have with your children.
And when your
kids are grown they will be able to make a similar observation about their own
interactions with their family, and so on.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in
Southern California. She graduated with honors from the
Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about
Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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