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| Photo courtesy of Sara Fogan Lunge-lessons are a great way to work on and improve riding skills and rebuild self-confidence after a fall. |
I am sure that
most people—even non-equestrians—have heard the expression that you must get
right back on the horse if it bucks you off. It is not about teaching the
horse a lesson or proving that we won’t let him “beat us.” Contrary to popular
belief, this philosophy is actually about helping riders to regain their self-confidence after a fall or other
negative experience with a horse. This philosophy has even become a metaphor
for picking yourself up and overcoming a challenge in various contexts (work,
relationships, riding a bike). It also happens to be a perfect example of how I
use hypnotherapy to help my clients replace negative associations to a person
or event with a new “known” or positive association with that situation.
Few horses are
malicious in that they intend to buck off or “lose” their riders. Regardless of
the cause of the incident, provided you and your horse are physically unhurt
and able to do continue, it is very important (psychologically) for you to get
back on your horse. This is because as more time passes between the fall and
riding again, your subconscious mind is strengthening the new, negative
association(s) between riding, that specific horse and any negative self-talk
that may be in bouncing around in your mind. You want to eradicate and replace
any of those negative associations with positive ones of enjoying yourself and
riding/spending time with your equine partner. You don’t have to ride fast or
even very far. If you are more comfortable riding in a smaller arena than going
on a trail ride, that’s fine. Do this work where you feel most comfortable—even
if it is standing still with another person or your instructor holding the
horse on a line. The objective of this part of the ride is to create new
positive associations between your horse, being on and with your horse, feeling
comfortable, being relaxed and enjoying yourself. Focus on taking slow, deep
breaths. Pat your horse and reassure him that you are still there and that
everything is okay. (By the way, these actions will comfort and relax you, too.)
I hope these
suggestions help you to relax and enjoy the time you spend with your horse,
regardless of what is going on around you. I am not a riding instructor, and I
encourage everyone to consult with a trainer or instructor to resolve riding
and horse-related issues. However, I have found from personal experience as
well as my hypnotherapy work with other equestrians that setting positive
expectations for a good ride is the most effective way to achieve that goal.
For more information about my hypnotherapy work with equestrians, please
contact me via my website at www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in
Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®
and to set up an appointment, please
visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
