A
lot of the time, the way we deal with a stressful situation comes down to our
attitude about what is going on. If we believe a minor inconvenience is a major
disaster, we are likely to behave like it is. As soon as we perceive a threat
in the environment, the subconscious mind goes into fight/flight mode, kicking
the adrenal system will kick into high gear and flooding the bloodstream with
adrenaline. Whether we are more likely to run away or stand up to the challenge
and try to change the outcome of the situation depends a lot on our expectations
about that outcome, based on our subconscious life script. If we can change
these expectations, we can also change our behavioral response to that
situation and the outcome of that scenario.
One
version of this philosophy is a quote from the film Barbarosa: “What cannot be remedied must be endured.” In other
words, if we cannot change or improve our circumstances, we may still get
through the challenge with minimal physical and emotional distress by gritting
our teeth and ploughing through. Don’t make any waves or draw attention to
yourself, just do whatever you need to do to deal with the situation until our
luck improves. Alternatively, we can follow the Mother Superior’s advice to
Maria in The Sound of Music: Climb
every mountain. If and when we encounter an obstacle along our journey to
fulfilling a dream or achieving a goal, continue to push forward toward your
goal. Look for alternative strategies and different paths that you can take to
get where you want to be.
In
his book Success Is Not an Accident, Hypnosis
Motivation Institute founder John Kappas, Ph.D. explains how a person’s mental
script and subconscious messages ultimately influence how and where the
individual will direct energy and effort to realize a goal. Everyone has the
power to achieve a goal, Dr. Kappas says, if the “correct” mental script for
that success—like a road map or a recipe—is available and in place for the
person to follow. However, if you don’t possess a subconscious mental script that
compels you to pursue a goal when times are tough, repeated exposure
(experience) to negative outcomes may
further jade your optimism about the likelihood of achieving the success you
desire.
Hypnotherapy and
therapeutic guided imagery can help you rewrite those negative mental scripts
and help you to see that silver lining in the darkest of clouds. Remember: every
belief and behavior you have learned can also be unlearned. Hypnosis is an effective, drug-free and natural way to
help you override (i.e., unlearn) that previous mental script and override negative
habits or beliefs that no longer work for you. so you can start living the kind
of life you want and deserve to be living.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a
certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with
honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more
information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/
