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(This blog was
originally posted on January 28, 2016)
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| Photo by Rick Hustead |
Many years ago, someone told me that she would happily give someone the
benefit of the doubt and to believe what another person was telling her to be
true until that “fact” was called into question. Her implicit trust impressed
me—especially since this statement was made around the time that The X-Files was at the height of
its popularity. During the late 1990s, just about everyone I knew kept reciting
the series’ famous tagline: “Trust no one.” Some mutual friends liked to tease
her for this gullibility, but I respected her open-mindedness. It’s a lonely
world to question, doubt and double-think everything that somebody tells you. When
I started my hypnotherapy certification at the Hypnosis
Motivation Institute in 2004, I learned that gullibility is really just a disparaging
description of hyper-suggestibility.
Furthermore, we are all probably susceptible to being led down that
too-good-to-be-true rosy path to some extent, at some point during our lives.
John Kappas, Ph.D., a
psychologist and founder of the Hypnosis
Motivation Institute, described suggestibility in terms of how a person
learns. It develops between when we are born through the first eight or so
years of life, through interactions with the primary caretaker (usually,
mother). If Mom’s communications were typically direct and literal—i.e., “I say
what I mean and I mean what I say”—you’re more likely to take other people at
their word because that is how you were taught/learned to communicate. This is type
of communication and understanding is a hallmark of Physical Suggestibility. Conversely,
someone whose caregiver who did not always follow through or support her words
with congruent actions is more likely to always wonder if there is a hidden
meaning behind what was said. For example: Mom tells you to finish your
homework before you’re allowed to play with your friends but eventually she
gives in to your begging and whining and allows you to play first (for just a
little while). In this case, you also rely on the speaker’s tone of voice and
context of the communication/action to infer
the meaning behind her words: She “said” I can’t go play but she just pointed
to the door and indicated I should leave the house. The comparative ambiguity
of this communication creates Emotional Suggestibility.
Now, as very young children, most of us are taught at a very young age
to listen to and respect adults and to always tell the truth (not lie). This is
all well and good until the first time an older relative comes to visit at the
holidays and teases or pranks you. Deep down, you know that Mom has only run
out to the market to pick up some ingredients for the meal; but your grandparent
or an older cousin tells you (smiling) that mom has actually gone away on a
trip without you. You have been
taught to trust and believe grown-ups—and you basically do—until Mom saunters
back into the house with an armful of groceries and you realize that you have
been “had.” Where does that trusting instinct go from here?
Our suggestibility will continue to be challenged throughout our
lifetime. Often, this happens willingly (with our permission), such as when we
suspend our disbelief about a plot-twist while watching a movie or reading a
book, or even when we go shopping for groceries or clothes. Yes, I really do want to buy that chocolate cake/those
Jimmy
Choo stilettos; I just “need” someone to persuade me to give into that
whim. When we are engrossed in a thrilling story or interacting with a highly
motivated salesperson, it is even more difficult to be skeptical and overcome
the power of the hypnotic
modalities that increase our suggestibility in the first place.
Someone who is ready and willing to believe anything and everything probably
possess a somnambulistic suggestibility and go through most days in hypnosis.
(The friend I described at the beginning of this essay probably fit this
description.) As I explained in a previous blog, it is not uncommon for me to
have to de-hypnotize
a client before we can work on the issue the person wanted to address. This
technique is also effective for increasing our critical thinking, logic and
reasoning faculties in the conscious mind that enable us to resist and/or avoid
the temptations to which our suggestibility can make us vulnerable.
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Sara
R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern
California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in
2005. In July 2019 she was voted the Best Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita,
California. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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