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(This blog was originally posted on
April 4, 2016)
When it comes to relationships, Physical
Sexual and Emotional Sexual partners have very different needs and desires.
A Physical Sexual controls the Emotional Sexual partner with guilt.
Relationships are very important to this personality, and if the relationship
ever seems to be in jeopardy the Physical Sexual will do just about anything to
rescue and preserve the relationship.
Whereas the Physical Sexual experiences very little guilt, the Emotional
Sexual partner is laden with it, observed Hypnosis
Motivation Institute founder Dr. John
Kappas. Therefore, to maintain control in the relationship, the Physical
Sexual partner must never release
that hold until the person gets what he or she wants, he advised. The Physical
Sexual is also easily hurt, such as in instances of betrayal, and can be
vindictive. “They really hold onto that hurt,” he said.
Conversely, the Emotional Sexual controls a Physical Sexual partner by
rejection or withholding emotion. The Emotional Sexual tends to be defensive
and protective, and generally has difficulty expressing his or her true
feelings, Dr. Kappas explained. Furthermore, the Emotional Sexual also gets
over failed relationships fairly quickly. This personality tends to need more
space and does not place as high a priority on relationships as the Physical
Sexual tends to do. The more the Emotional Sexual withdraws to create more
space for him- or herself in the relationship, the more desperate the Physical
becomes to reconnect. Paradoxically, this behavior only irritates the Emotional
Sexual partner, and he or she tends to withdraw from the partner even more.
Sex is another area where the Emotional and Physical partners tend to
try to control each other, the hypnotherapist pointed out. Both male and female
Physical Sexual partners crave closeness after intercourse, but an Emotional
Sexual male wants to get his orgasm over with and move on to something else.
Whereas a Physical Sexual female wants her partner to “prove” that he cares
about her through intimacy, a Physical Sexual male can control his partner
through his release (ejaculation), Dr. Kappas said. Finally, the Emotional
Sexual female wants to figure out how to manipulate or control her Physically
Sexual male partner.
“It’s a lot easier for a hypnotherapist to work with couples where
there’s an Emotional Sexual female and a Physical Sexual male, because it’s
easier to ‘mold’ the Emotional Sexual female than it is to mold the Emotional
Sexual male. Plus, she suffers a lot of guilt,” Dr. Kappas said.
For more information about how to address the Emotional Sexual and
Physical Sexual personalities’ response to rejection, I invite you to check out
my blog titled, Dealing
With Rejection in Hypnotherapy.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in
Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in 2005. Sara has been voted the Best
Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita, California, four years in a row (2019-2022).
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