(This blog was originally posted on February 3,
2016)
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| Photo by Rick Hustead |
The cornerstone of Hypnosis Motivation
Institute founder John Kappas,
Ph.D.’s hypnotherapy practice was the concept of Emotional and Physical
Sexuality. In my blog titled, All
About Emotional and Physical Sexuality, Part 1, I described the
characteristics of these personalities and the importance of knowing a client’s
sexual personality as a way to understand, predict and even mold his or her
behavior. In today’s blog I will further describe the priorities and goals of
each personality in the context of a romantic (sexual) relationship. Please
keep in mind that, like suggestibility,
there are varying degrees of the Emotional and Physical Sexuality traits; no
one is 100 percent “Emotional” or 100 percent “Physical” in terms of the degree
to which dominant sexual-personality traits is manifested.
E&P PRIORITIES
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EMOTIONAL
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PHYSICAL
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Career/$
Security
(If
financial security doesn’t exist, everything else falls by the wayside.)
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Relationship/Sex
(Relationship
and Sex are interchangeable for the Physical. Sex is how the Physical
expresses love)
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Hobbies/Kids
(Emotional
male has no friends or work acquaintance, etc. or 1 Physical male friend
considers; Emotional female partner as friend. Emotional female has other
Emotional female friends. “Kids” are a hobby for an ethnic Emotional)
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Children/Family
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Relationship/Family
(Home
base)
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Hobbies/
Friends
(Physical
Female has Physical male friends, often ex-partners, lack of competition; a
Physical male will have Physical male friends.)
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Sex
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Career/$
Security
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Emotional Sexual vs. Physical
Sexual Personality
- Emotionals don’t like to confront the partner. Physicals have no problem asking for or “demanding” what they want and need in the relationship.
- Guilt controls the Emotional partner. The Physical partner feels actual, physical pain during a break-up, but when the relationship is over an Emotional “seems” to move on to a new relationship. (A bad break-up can take the Physical out of the dating game for a very long time in some cases, or subconsciously “chooses” another Physical partner because the previous experience with the Emotional lover/end of relationship was so traumatic.)
- Sex and the relationship are two different/separate things for the Emotional partner. The Emo can compartmentalize: “It’s ‘just’ sex” with a mistress.
- Sex and the relationship are the one and the same for the Physical partner. A Physical Sexual individual can’t imagine being sexually intimate without “feeling” an emotional connection with the other person.
- BOTH Emotional Sexual and Physical Sexual partner wants control in the relationship but go about different ways to get it. (E.g., Physical partner shouts/pouts/makes demands for more attention; the Emotional Partner freezes out/ignores the Physical partner, which makes the Physical partner shout/make demands until one of them walks away from the relationship or reconciles the difference.
If
you are interested in finding out what whether you are an Emotional or Physical
Sexual personality, check out the relationship
quiz. It is can be hard to be objective about your own behavior when answering
these questions, so I suggest that you take the quiz for (about) your
spouse/partner and have the other person do the same for you. Once you know and
understand Dr. Kappas’s E&P Sexual Personality model, a whole new world
will open up for you in terms of recognizing, predicting and even helping to
shape your own behavior and that of other people with whom you share a
significant personal relationship.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in
Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in 2005. For more
information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an
appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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