(This blog was originally reposted on August 18, 2014)
In
a way, some instances of reconstructive surgery is like putting a bandage on a
wound rather than healing the tissue that has been injured. John Kappas, Ph.D.’s Theory of Mind tells
us that we start receiving message units the moment we are born. Between the
ages of five and eight, we start taking these messages directly into the
subconscious mind. Even negative messages that cause emotional pain such as
criticism about physical appearance or intelligence will be accepted and
integrated to help form our life script. Negative messages create negative
beliefs, and unless or until those beliefs are replaced with positive ones, our
self-image will not improve even if the physique or appearance changes.
To
further complicate this situation, we are strongly influenced by peers and
social trend as we get older. Society also influences our personal beliefs
about what we think is attractive. Furthermore, should we decide to have
plastic or reconstructive surgery to “fix” a perceived blemish in our
appearance, we still might not think those changes make us look better or more
attractive. If you were constantly criticized about your looks or physique, no matter
how clear your skin is now or how fit you are now, those early beliefs may
still make you doubt what you see in the mirror. Increasing the number or
frequency of reconstructive procedures cannot increase your self-confidence or
self-esteem so long as your subconscious mental script believes otherwise.
In
other words, the path to improving your self-image starts with improving that
image—yourself-confidence and self-esteem from the inside. “Don’t put in suggestions about being attractive if it’s
not true. Give negative suggestions about negative situations if you were
different: i.e., the downside of being more attractive,” the Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder
suggested. “You have to learn to live with [the way you look].”
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in
Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005.
For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®
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visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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