(This blog was originally posted on January 3, 2014) |
| Photo courtesy of Microsoft |
Perhaps you have heard or even
used one of these expressions: “He has great energy”; “You give off a good vibe”;
“there is a charge in the air when you’re around”; “she rubs me the wrong way”;
“I have a very bad feeling about this”; or, “I feel very comfortable when I am
around you.” These are just a few examples of how people experience emotional energy
in their environment.
I am not talking about energy in
the context of lightning or electricity as depicted in the photo that
accompanies this blog. Rather, “energy” in this context refers to that primal
and subconscious reaction to another person or a situation. This reaction may
be one of attraction or repulsion; it may change (positively or negatively)
over time. Whenever energy is very big and not controlled, even positive energy
can overwhelm, confuse and frustrate you. Low energy can make you feel
depressed, anxious and suffocated. The great thing about energy in either
context is that you have the power to
change (raise or lower) it so you feel more relaxed and comfortable. Here are a
few easy techniques to help you do this.
·
Square breathe.
Draw a deep breath through your nose and hold it for the count of 4, 3, 2,
1…and release the breath slowly through the mouth. Continue breathing like this
to/until you feel centered (relaxed, patient, focused and confident) to deal
with the person or situation that is affecting you.
·
Use these seconds
that you are drawing and expelling each cleansing breath to think about what
you will say or do in response to the emotionally charged person you are
dealing with and/or to actually change the energy around you.
·
If you feel
overwhelmed (negatively or positively) by the energy around you, hold your
right (or left) forearm in front of you and make a quick slicing motion in
front of you. (You can also perform this action to each side and behind your
body.) I use this technique every time I conclude a Reiki (energy) healing
session to ensure that I separate from the other person or animal’s energy,
when we are done. You should immediately notice a sensation of release and
greater relaxation once you have literally cut off the connection with the
intrusive energy.
·
Match your level
of activity (tone and cadence of speech, intensity of the same behavior, etc.)
and then slowly, gradually start to lower or raise your level of energy. As you
change your energy level, the other person(s) will subconsciously start to
match your behavior in a similar way to how you consciously matched their
behavior to effect this change.
