When to Lower Extreme Physical Sexual Behavior

Photo by Rick Hustead

When dealing with a high-level Physical-Sexual female (80- to 85-percent Physical), this person is likely manifesting neurotic behavior in the relationship, said Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder John Kappas, Ph.D. Consequently, the goal of the hypnotherapy is to lower her physical-sexual traits and help her develop self-confidence and strength so she can function more normally. To do this, the hypnotherapist should explain to the client the basic traits of her Physical Sexual personality and help her understand her behavior (jealousy, suspicion) and where it came from, Dr. Kappas explained.

To bring down extreme levels of Physical Sexuality, the hypnotherapist must focus on and develop in the client those traits or behaviors that she lacks. To do this, the hypnotherapist helps her bring out the logic and reasoning faculties of the conscious mind so the individual can tolerate frustration and not overreact in a stressful situation. Hysteria and tendency to make demands—a default behavior when a Physical Sexual female becomes jealous or feels threatened—will only make the situation worse, the hypnotherapist said.

A high-Physical Sexual female who has just lost a relationship is likely to be hysterical about the break-up, he continued. If she has been rejected in the relationship, she is also likely to run toward the partner. Therefore, the first step in the therapeutic process to help this client deal with this loss is to give her hope that the relationship can be saved if she makes simple changes in her behavior. “Once her boyfriend [or spouse] sees there’s a change in her and that she’s like what he was first attracted to, his [Emotional] sexuality will come down and they may be able to re-negotiate the relationship.”

To accomplish this, the hypnotherapist should first desensitize the client to these high levels of frustration from the highest level, a 10, all the way down to the lowest, a 1. When she is in hypnosis, the client should hold this negative emotion at the lowest level while the hypnotherapist has her face the situations that cause the greatest anxiety. This exercise reinforces the double-bind therapeutic concept, whereby it is impossible to feel maximum levels of stress while experiencing extreme levels of comfort and relaxation she is experiencing in hypnosis. “Instead of being upset, she’s backing down being very comfortable with it. Focus on the behaviors [that she] lacks,” Dr. Kappas advised.

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2016

Punctuality, Last-Minute Cancellations and No-Shows

Photo by Rick Hustead

A couple of months ago, the topic of punctuality and attendance came up at the business luncheon I attend each week. It was a relevant topic, because when an unexpected issue comes up at work or home it may be necessary to miss that week’s meeting. Perhaps it is an urgent problem at work that needs to be addressed or a child has to be taken to the doctor, etc. Or, a network partner has a long-planned vacation and will be away. Her car broke down. His dog got out. The hairdresser was late finishing the previous appointment before mine….

Tardiness and absences from a business-networking meeting can be inconvenient for various reasons, such as walking in late when a presentation is underway or having fewer members available to make referrals. As a certified hypnotherapist, I am very interested in and concerned about my clients’ reasons for being late or missing the appointment/last-minute cancellation because this reveals a lot about their motivations for and subconscious commitment and resistance to their therapy.

According to John Kappas, Ph.D., resistance to changing a behavior is the first stage of effecting this change. “We do things systematically to avoid change,” said the founder of the Hypnosis Motivation Institute. “Change is a threat to the unconscious mind.”

For example, being late to the first-ever hypnotherapy session with me to overcome procrastination and constant tardiness says a lot about that person’s subconscious mental script. Even though the client consciously wants to change this behavior, it is so familiar, comfortable and known that the subconscious mind is not going to change without a metaphoric “fight,” i.e., hypnosis. Or this person may mistakenly get on the wrong freeway and drive 30 miles the wrong way before realizing the mistake and making his way to my office an hour late (and having completely missed) the session. I typically call or text my clients the night before to remind them about the appointment; if someone is already 15 minutes late I will call to check in and make sure the individual is 1) okay/healthy and 2) still planning to come in. If so, once the client arrives at my office one of the first things I would explore is what he thinks/believes the subconscious mind was trying to tell them. Slipping into a state of environmental hypnosis out of anxiety or nervousness about going in for the first-ever hypnotherapy session could be a given explanation. But another, equally strong subconscious motivation for being late is resistance to changing the behavior—even a behavior that the person has repeatedly insisted that he wants to change.

I understand resistance. I also know how to help individuals break down this subconscious resistance to replace an unwanted behavior with a wanted/more acceptable one in hypnotherapy. To change an unwanted behavior, however, it is as important to go for the cause of that behavior as it is for the person to be motivated to make the change. While this is principle does not exclusively apply for dealing with consistent tardiness, late-cancellations or “no-show” clients, their resistance to making a consciously desired change is very obvious.

 
 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2016

Thoughts of the Day

Photo by Sara Fogan

      Every now and then I like (and need) to take a few moments and remind myself about what is really important to me, in my life. If you follow me on my Calminsense Hypnotherapy Facebook page you may have seen some of these quotes before on this page, or will in the future. Many of these Quotes of the Day are beautiful examples and illustrations of the work I do as a hypnotherapist, so I will probably draw on them in future essays.

• “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” – Will Rogers

• “Relationships matter. Every moment you build or erode them.” – S. Chris Edmonds

• “Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.” – MayaAngelou

• “Simplicity and complexity need each other.” – John Maeda

• “Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have.” – Doris Mortman

• “Confusion takes place when we do not like the answer we are given.” – Lolly Daskal

• “What you get by achieving your goals is not nearly as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” – Zig Ziglar

•  “Never get bored or cynical. Yesterday is a thing of the past.” – Walt Disney

•  “The gift of truth excels all other truths.” – Buddha

• “As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease.” – Eckhart  Tolle

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2016

Suggestibility, Sexuality and Psychological Issues

Photo by Rick Hustead

According to John Kappas, Ph.D., Emotional and Physical sexuality and http://calminsensehypnotherapy.blogspot.com/2013/12/emotional-and-physical-suggestibility.html characteristics dominate different psychological symptoms or disorders. To treat the specific problem, you must address the issue in the context of the sexuality/suggestibility of the client when the symptoms began, the Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder explained.

“Emotionals tend to have more emotional problems and Physicals tend to have more physical problems,” Dr. Kappas said. Following is a list of issues or disorders and the suggestibility/sexuality with which it most often corresponds.

Issue	Suggestibility or Sexuality
Dissociation	Somnambulist (50/50 suggestibility, sexuality)
Explosive Personality Disorder	High Physical Sexual, but high Emotional Sexuality is also associated because of ego sensation
Phobia	Emotional Suggestible, Emotional Sexual
Loss	Physical Suggestible, Physical Sexual
Stutter/speech	50/50 suggestibility
Psychosexual disorders	Emotional Suggestible, 50/50 Emotional Sexual
Compulsive gambling	50/50 suggestibility, Physical/Emotional sexuality
Most compulsive behavior	Extreme Emotional Sexual behavior
Exhibitionism	Physical Suggestible
Masochism	Physical Suggestible
Pyromania	Somnambulist (50/50 suggestibility, sexuality)
Kleptomania	Physical Suggestible, Physical Sexual
Homosexuality	Physical Sexual males, Emotional Sexual re: relationship issues
Male sexual dysfunction	Emotional Sexual
Repetitive words, involuntary movements	Physical Suggestible, Emotional Sexual
Pain alleviation	Physical Suggestible, Physical Sexual
Weight control	Physical Suggestible, Physical Sexual (Individual needs physical gratification, which leads to tendency to put on weight.)
Anorexia	Emotional Sexual, but bad eating habits can change suggestibility.
Bulimia	Physical Sexual (habit disorder)
Fear of contamination	Emotional Sexual

“Some personalities dominate problems and therapies, but Emotional and Physical Sexual personalities are both capable of having these problems,” the hypnotherapist said. “If you don’t consider primary/secondary cause hypnotherapy may be a one-shot treatment (e.g., desensitization for fear of flying), but what you’re really doing is transferring energy, because fear of flying doesn’t exist alone in a vacuum,” he said.

California law allows me to provide hypnotherapy as a complementary or alternative treatment to help you achieve vocational and avocational self-improvement goals (Business and Professions Code 2908). In any other case—including many of the ones listed above—I must receive a referral from a licensed medical doctor or mental-health professional in order to work with you on that issue.

Sara R. Fagan, Ch. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/

© 2016