Sunday, August 31, 2014

Hypnotherapy for Children and Teenagers

(This blog was originally posted on February 27, 2014)



                Over the years, many of my clients have wanted to work on similar self-improvement issues: increase self-confidence/self-esteem, improve sport performance, increase focus/memory, manage fears and phobias, or to overcome social anxiety. The majority of these clients have been adults. However, I can and do work with children and teenagers. For the most part, a child’s hypnotherapy session is very similar to the grown-up’s: I discuss what behavior(s) the person would like to change, and I use the context of John Kappas, Ph.D.’s Theory of Mind to explain how the current, unwanted behavior was established—and how it will be replaced by a more effective, desired strategy. During hypnosis, I provide general suggestions for relaxation and guided imagery that is specifically tailored for my client. Following are some of the major differences between my hypnotherapy work with children (under 18 years old) and adults:

1.       I must have a signed consent document from the child’s parents in order to work with anyone under 18 years old. If the parents are divorced and share custody of the child, both parents must still sign a consent-release form which I provide. If only one parent or has custody of the child, the legal guardian must sign the document.

2.       The parents and legal guardians have a legal right to know some details about the hypnotherapy that their child or teenager is receiving. They also have a right to know whether the minor is using drugs or engaging in underage sex or dangerous behavior, or is threatening to harm him- or herself or others.

3.       I respect the youngster’s right to privacy and confidentiality whenever possible, but I also encourage the individual to confide in his or her parents, if/when it is appropriate.

4.       When I work with minors, I always invite my client’s parents or guardian to be present during the hypnosis.

5.       The amount of time a young child will spend in hypnosis during the hypnotherapy session will be much shorter than what an adult or even a teenager will spend. While I typically use breathing/relaxation exercises to induce hypnosis in all of my clients, I also employ some kind of eye-fascination technique to hypnotize a child under age 14. (I usually do not use eye-fascination techniques to induce hypnosis in an adult).

 

As a certified hypnotherapist, California law allows me to provide hypnotherapy as a complementary or alternative treatment to help my clients to achieve vocational and avocational self-improvement goals (Business and Professions Code 2908). If your child or teenager’s issues are, or become, beyond my scope of expertise as a hypnotherapist, I will refer you to a licensed medical doctor or psychologist for further evaluation and/or treatment.

 

 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/

© 2014

 

Friday, August 29, 2014

Great Expectations


(A version of this blog was originally posted on January 31, 2014)

 
 

It is Friday night. Perhaps you have just completed your work week; or, maybe you just clocked in for the first of several night/closing shifts at one of your jobs. The promise of Saturday and Sunday—the weekend—looms large. Will you have time to complete all of those projects you promised your spouse that you would definitely, absolutely complete by Sunday night? Does the company you work for give its employees Labor Day off so you can enjoy a long weekend hanging out with your friends and family? Perhaps your boss refused to give you that day off, after all, and now you are bound and determined to remain in a foul mood all weekend so others can know how angry and frustrated you are. Or, are your friends and colleagues amazed that, yes, you are actually very happy to have to be working or on-call at work because you are thankful to have a job in the first place.

Believe it or not, your subconscious mind largely determines everything that you will do this weekend, from whether you will have the weekend “off” or will be at work. The “knowns” in your subconscious mind will influence whether you get together to celebrate the unofficial end of summer. Your subconscious mind influences whether you will make a genuine effort to fix the kitchen cabinets or ultimately postpone the project another week. Your subconscious mind influences which tasty tidbits you expect to be served at the annual Labor Day Block Party: you really don’t want to attend, but you just can’t resist Domino’s pizza and Buffalo wings combination and, anyway, it would look really bad if you are the only person from work who is a no-show.

Finally, the mental scripts, or “known” beliefs and behaviors, in your subconscious mind will determine how you react to everything that occurs this weekend. A rule in physics states: “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.” Similarly, over the years you have learned that specific relationships exist between emotions about/reactions to a specific, related event: If my team wins a championship, I will be happy; if it loses, I will be sad/angry/etc. If I do my best, hard work to complete a project that I promised to do for my spouse, I will feel good about this work, my spouse will be happy and this task is over; if I do not complete this job, everyone will be angry and defensive. If you attend the block party and the food is as tasty and wonderful as you expected it to be, you might find that you will have a better time at the event than you expected; but if the host only provides chips and salsa (or any/every other dish other than the one you wanted), you will wish you never showed up in the first place.

This weekend, why not try something different to break this chain of expectations and behaviors? Before you start your shift at work or when you get home and kick off your shoes to relax on the sofa, or before you head out for that barbecue, take several slow, deep breaths. Visualize, imagine, picture or pretend that you are doing “x” activity, and you feel relaxed and comfortable the entire time. You are focused on doing your very best at work or to complete a chore at home. You see yourself smiling and enjoying yourself as you socialize and with the people around you. Visualize, imagine, picture or pretend that you see yourself being polite and enjoying yourself with your neighbors. Since the subconscious cannot tell the difference between fantasy and reality, allow this visualization exercise to create new “knowns” in your mind and become your new reality or experience.

I hope you have a great weekend!

 

 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2014

 

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Client Cooperation


 
(This blog was originally posted on March 6, 2014)


 

Whether you want to change a behavior to improve your health or you simply want to learn how to relax, hypnosis is an effective, natural and drug-free tool that facilitates behavior change by accessing the subconscious mind. However, you must want to change your behavior in order for hypnotherapy to work.

As I explained in my December 27, 2013 blog, “suggestibility” is how we communicate and learn. Even though you can be suggestible to many people, you are most suggestible to yourself. Therefore, I incorporate the specific words/expressions you used to describe your emotions and motivations/desire to effect the desired change when I craft your hypnotic script (suggestions). This means that you will be hypnotizing yourself.

Many people wonder if hypnosis will really work—and how it can work—on someone who has a razor-sharp mind and such a strong will (i.e., a stubborn streak) like theirs. Even though it is natural to subconsciously resist the process of becoming hypnotized at first, these initial doubts may even help to deepen your relaxation and comfort once you enter the hypnotic trance. However, you will not successfully change your behavior if you do not want to make this change.

 

 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2014

 

 

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Depression and Diet

 
 

                In his book, The Professional Hypnotism Manual, Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder John Kappas, Ph.D. wrote that some symptoms of depression are also symptomatic of a physiological condition of low blood sugar. These symptoms include insomnia, perception of loss of ability/inability to control the environment and anxiety. There are many reasons why someone might have low level of sugar in the bloodstream, including eating too many carbohydrates and not eating enough protein, or even drinking alcohol or taking drugs. However, continuous physical or emotional stress is also a common culprit of this condition, Dr. Kappas warned.

                He wrote that the perception of lack of control, which is often a precursor to depression, can be induced when the mind is overloaded by message units from the subconscious mind, conscious mind or body. Similar to slipping into hypnosis, “Depression is the tail end of escape for someone who is in conflict,” the hypnotherapist said.

                People whose depressive symptoms are caused by low blood sugar can relieve these symptoms by changing their diet to include more protein. “You have to start stabilizing the mood swings,” Dr. Kappas said. However, even if you treat the physiological condition you must still confront the depression. As a certified hypnotherapist, it is out of the scope of my professional expertise to diagnose or treat depression or any other illness that may have a psychological or physiological basis. Therefore, I do and will refer clients to an appropriate licensed medical or psychology professional to determine the cause and/or treat that specific physical symptom. However, once this other expert has ruled out a medical etiology of your symptom, with a follow-up referral from that licensed professional, I may continue working with you in hypnotherapy to help alleviate and/or control these symptoms.

 
 

*California law allows access by California residents to complementary and alternative health care practitioners who are not providing services that require medical training and credentials. The purpose of a program of hypnotherapy is for vocational and avocational self-improvement (Business and Professions Code 2908) and as an alternative or complementary treatment to healing arts services licensed by the state. A hypnotherapist is not a licensed physician or psychologist, and hypnotherapy services are not licensed by the state of California. Services are non-diagnostic and do not include the practice of medicine, neither should they be considered a substitute for licensed medical or psychological services or procedures.

 
 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2014

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

What Do You Believe?

 

                I love this quote from actress Cameron Diaz: “I know I am capable of anything because I’ve never been told otherwise.” Wow. What a powerful statement. I can almost hear and feel the confidence in her voice. Unfortunately, many people do not possess the same amount of confidence in their own abilities. Why? For the same reason that Ms. Diaz and other people have high self-esteem or high self-confidence: they learned what to believe about their abilities.

                John Kappas, Ph.D., a psychologist and founder of the Hypnosis Motivation Institute, best explained this phenomenon in his Theory of Mind. Your subconscious mind learns and adopts behaviors and ways of thinking from a very young age. By the time you are about 5 years old the blueprint of your future beliefs and behaviors is estab­lished, based on the beliefs and behaviors you learned during those early years of your life. When you were a very small child, a caretaker believed and encouraged you to believe that anything is possible—or not. You learned by association and repetition of that activity to like and feel comfortable doing it; and every time that person or others encouraged you to participate in the activity/activities you enjoyed, your confidence and self-esteem continued to grow. Conversely, if you received negative messages (e.g., criticism and disapproval) and/or were discouraged from doing “x” your self-confidence and/or self-esteem are unlikely to be so high. For example, there is a fabulous scene in the 1981 film, Paternity, in which Burt Reynolds’ character points to a little boy riding his bicycle on a brick wall. He tells Beverly D’Angelo that the child has never fallen off that wall, but that the day he does fall it will be “the day he finds out about gravity.”

                According to Dr. Kappas, everyone carries the association and enjoyment (or not) of our specific “known” behaviors and beliefs throughout our life or until we are motivated to change this belief or behavior. Whether someone encouraged or discouraged you from doing something or believing in yourself, these patterns formed knowns in your subconscious mind and eventually became part of your subconscious life script. From then on, every time you encountered an unfamiliar situation, this script influenced whether you would attempt a challenge with confidence or bow out because you didn’t believe you could really accomplish the task at hand. Not only does your SCM store the association between those beliefs and behaviors, it also reinforces them every time you engage in that behavior or bow out of an activity. No matter how much your conscious mind dislikes or rails against the self-doubt you carry around with you, so long as your SCM is comfortable and familiar (pleasure) with this known that is what you will continue to believe.

Your subconscious mind may know what you really want, but it is your conscious mind that possesses the will-power, decision-making, reasoning and logic to literally change your mind. I use hypnosis and therapeutic guided-imagery techniques to help my hypnotherapy clients change those unwanted or negative beliefs or behaviors that have prevented them from achieving their true potential. Hypnotherapy works because you want to make those changes, and it helps you to see and realize that anything really can be possible because you no longer tell yourself otherwise.

 

 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2014

 

Monday, August 25, 2014

The Emmys


 

The 66th Emmy Awards ceremony airs tonight. For the first time in probably my entire adult life, I am actually planning to watch the ceremony. I have seen some of the nominated programs, and I am rooting for a few actors to bring home a statue. However, my greatest interest in the broadcast is to “virtually” support Seth Meyers.

I have watched his new talk show, Late Night with Seth Meyers, since it first aired in February 2014. To be honest, I was initially skeptical about the series’ potential; but as the months passed I found myself laughing as much or more as I did when I watched Jay Leno. I find that Mr. Meyers has a more adult sensibility than most of his late-night peers, which really resonates with my sense of humor. Or maybe I just appreciate the way he greets his audience each night, always taking care to ask: “Is everyone well?” Ever the impeccable host, he could almost be hosting a dinner party.

Since this is his time hosting the Emmys, I can’t help but wonder if he is nervous. Of course, he is not lacking in experience as an Emcee: in2010 he hosted the 2010 ESPY Awards, and the following year he made the President of the United States laugh at the 2011 Correspondents Dinner. Telling jokes and making people laugh and feel at ease without making fun is his forte. But just in case Mr. Meyers is feeling a little nervous before he steps on-stage, here are some suggestions to help him strengthen his self-confidence and control of the room before the curtain rises:

·         Eat a nutritious meal. Be sure to eat a nutritious meal—or at least a hearty snack—that contains protein before you begin the show. Protein helps to stabilize blood-sugar levels, which in turn prevents moodiness and lower anxiety. I know chicken is your favorite food, so a piece of roasted chicken would be a good choice.

·         Avoid caffeine and alcohol. Caffeine and alcohol both affect suggestibility, so hold off drinking either of these beverages until the party. (Make sure you have a designated driver if you have alcohol!)

·         Activate your anchor. Take a few minutes to think about similar successful events you have hosted in the past. Visualize, imagine, picture or pretend that you are there again. How did you feel? What was your level of enthusiasm? Confidence? Excitement/enjoyment of that event? When you have a good sense of this experience in your mind, press your thumb and index finger together of either hand to anchor that good, positive energy. Every time you activate that anchor this way, you will be giving yourself another jolt of that positive energy. (Good news: You can do this when your hand is behind your back, in a pocket, behind the podium, etc. and no one has to know!)

·         Remember who you are. Make a mental list of your accomplishments to remind yourself why you are the perfect host for the 2014 Emmy Awards. You are a master comedian—former head writer of Saturday Night Live!—and you host your own talk show. You are the voice of your very own super-hero show, The Awesomes, on Hulu.

·         Deep breathing. Practice diaphragmatic breathing and visualization to really get yourself in your zone for tonight. Draw a slow, deep breath through your nose; hold it four three or four seconds and then release the air through your mouth. Breathing this way not only relaxes the tension in your physical body; it also provides a tangible example (proof) that you can control a specific physical behavior. Repeat this exercise several times until you notice that your pulse/heartbeat returns to its normal (resting) rate. Each time you inhale: visualize, imagine, picture or pretend that you are drawing in confidence, relaxation, humor/inspiration for impromptu jokes, a positive/receptive audience and/or any other positive affirmation. Each time you exhale: visualize, imagine, picture or pretend that you are releasing any negative emotion, anxiety, etc. to the universe where it can no longer affect you or anyone else. (Repeat as necessary.)

·         Visualization. Visualize, imagine, picture or pretend that you are on the stage. Mentally rehearse your jokes; hear the laughter and applause and appreciation for your quips booming through the theater. See yourself, smiling and becoming more and more confident and relaxed as every moment of the awards ceremony goes by. Activate each of your senses—smell, sound, sight, touch, even taste (if applicable) to really get a sense of this event and your success. Remember: Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality; in your SCM, you have already nailed tonight’s gig! When you have a good image of this in your mind, activate your anchor. You’re ready to take the stage!

Have a great time tonight, Mr. Meyers! I know you will be Awesome.

 

 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2014

 

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Wake-Up Call

(This blog is a modified version of an essay I posted March 18, 2014) 
 
 
California is no stranger to earthquakes. Consequently, public-service announcements regularly remind us to prepare for the Big One. (It’s coming!) When a 6.4 earthquake hit Santiago, Chile, yesterday, local news stations reminded Southern California residents to store enough food and water to last five days in case we had a similar quake in the near future. No need to wait: Napa Valley, California was rattled by a 6.0 quake at 3.20 this morning.

Anyone who experienced the 1989 San Francisco or the 1994 Northridge quake knows how deadly and destructive they can be. This morning’s temblor is reportedly the most powerful earthquake to strike Northern California since San Francisco’s “World Series Quake” in 1989. Regardless of its magnitude, any earthquake is terrifying and disorienting. It also triggers our two most basic emotional reactions, as described in John Kappas, Ph.D.’s Theory of Mind: fear of loud noises and fear of falling.

When the ground starts to move, buildings creak and groan as the structures sway or collapse on their foundations. Furniture and the objects resting on them, books standing on shelves or pictures hanging on the walls, may crash to the floor. The ground moves beneath our feet and can trigger vertigo and the innate fear of falling. Even if you have never experienced an earthquake before, you probably already know enough about this phenomenon to be concerned for your safety when the shaking starts. Everyone who has felt an earthquake before probably felt genuinely, understandably scared. However, this fear was not just about the disorienting physical sensations we experienced, but the violence of our anticipatory anxiety that was also triggered when the shaking started.

According to the Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder anticipatory anxiety is an example of the fight/flight response, whereby a person instinctively prepares himself or herself to face a potential threat based on previous experience that the threat exists. “You’ve had the panic [and] you start worrying it will recur. You’re more affected by what you think will happen,” he observed. When the shaking started it must have triggered many people’s memories of the 1989 quake and their anticipatory anxiety about what could happen, this time. This is how it started/what it felt like last time. There is nowhere to go! There was so much damage to my house! Parts of the freeway collapsed. The neighbor had a heart-attack. Two homes in the neighborhood were condemned… Many people were still sleeping (and had not yet eaten breakfast) this morning when the shaking started, so a lower blood-sugar-level may have also exacerbated the physiological sensations that can occur during a fear or phobic response. Throughout the earthquake, heart-rates accelerated and breathing became shallow. Some people may have started to sweat profusely, felt dizzy or confused, and even experienced tunnel vision as they were reminded that they have no control over the environment (at that moment).

Although none of us have control over when, where and how large the movement of those tectonic plates beneath us will be, we absolutely can and do have control over our response during an earthquake. Take these hours and days when the memory of the fear and “flight” response is still fresh in your mind, and write a new mental script that focuses on and will activate the “fight” response. Make and rehearse an emergency plan with your family so everyone knows where to go, what to do and who to contact if there you need to reunite somewhere after the quake. Know where your gas meter is located on your property and be able to turn the gas off to prevent a leak. Participate in the earthquake “drills” at your school/college and in your neighborhood so you know what to do during and where to go after the earthquake. Learn CPR so you can provide first aid to the injured. Memorize the access routes into and out of your community if you need to evacuate the area. Pack the recommended quantity of food and water for you, your family and your pets—and make sure these supplies are accessible if you need to grab them in a hurry. Create a list of neighbors and out-of-state friends or relatives whom you can contact to send a message to loved ones about your health and whereabouts in case the phone lines are down after the earthquake. Learn breathing and relaxation techniques—even self-hypnosis—that you can use to be calm and focused during and after the earthquake, which will enable you to help yourself and others survive the days and weeks to come.

For more information about this morning’s earthquake in the Napa Valley go to http://earthquake.usgs.gov/earthquakes/eventpage/nc72282711#summary. You can find ore information about earthquake preparedness at www.redcross.org.

               

 

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2014