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(This blog was originally posted on August 3, 2018)
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I recently read
a quote from Redefining Refuge which really resonated with me: “Cutting people
out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect
yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.” Think about it: children are born,
grow up and eventually move out of the family home. They may attend college,
get married and start their own families; or, they choose a vocation and start
their career, perhaps moving out of state (or out of the country) to establish
their own lives. Changing and moving on is part of living; growing up
emotionally as well as physically and chronologically. While these separations
are initially hard for both the parents and the “kids,” that doesn’t mean these
life transitions should not occur.
Just as we grow
up and outgrow our roles as children in the family home, we can also outgrow
the relationships we have forged during the course of our lives. As we mature, it
is natural to develop different and separate interests from the ones we shared
with our childhood and school friends. We often away from friendships and romantic
relationships we have enjoyed as adults. But, why shouldn’t this occur? We
continue to grow and mature every minute of our lives. It is not so unusual to
discover that the things that you couldn’t imagine liking or wanting to do at
seventeen have become sources of profound enjoyment at thirty-seven. If the
relationship devolves from friendship and respect to resentment and even
physical and/or physical abuse, it is time to cut those ties and move on to a
healthier relationship and a safer environment. But knowing this doesn’t make
it easier to do. Does it?
It isn’t just
that we continue to feel strong emotions about or bonds to the other person
that makes this separation so difficult. Rather, per John Kappas, Ph.D.’s Theory
of Mind, it is so difficult to “leave” a relationship we have outgrown because
we must give up a powerful known in
our subconscious mind. This relationship and the person(s) we share it with
have become part of our subconscious
mental script; the longer we have been following this script by interacting
in loving and respectful ways with the other person, the more difficult it is
to stop following that script. The same is also true if and when we have been
following an unloving and disrespectful or abusive script. Even if you do not
or no longer have positive feelings about the other person or people, this
separation may be painful because you must venture into the unknown experience of being independent
from that relationship. Regardless of the quality of that bond, disengaging
from it and the habits or behaviors you have practiced during the relationship entails
breaking script.
Whatever the
cause, letting go of a relationship can be very difficult and painful. In the
next blog, I will explain how experiencing grief and the five stages of loss
during hypnotherapy can help accept that the relationship is finished. When we
are able to say goodbye with love and respect, we can move forward in our lives
and so can they.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in
Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005.
Sara has been voted the Best Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita, California, three
years in a row (July 2019, September 2020, July 2021). For more information
about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please
visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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Hi, there. I am Tom Neil and I want to describe how life had been for my younger brother living with schizophrenia and how he had been permanently able to defeat this debilitating disease via a naturopathic, herbal method.
ReplyDeleteMaicon - my kid brother was twenty years old when he was brought to the emergency room by the campus police of the college from which he had been suspended several months ago. A professor had called and reported that he had walked into his classroom, accused him of taking his tuition money, and refused to leave.
Although he had much academic success as a teenager, his behavior had become increasingly odd during the past year. He quit seeing his friends and no longer seemed to care about his appearance or social pursuits. He began wearing the same clothes each day and seldom bathed. He lived with several family members but rarely spoke to any of them. When he did talk to them, he said he had found clues that his college was just a front for an organized crime operation. He had been suspended from college because of missing many classes. My sister said that she had often seen him mumbling quietly to himself and at times he seemed to be talking to people who were not there. He would emerge from my room and ask my family to be quiet even when they were not making any noise.
My father and sister told the staff that Maicon's great-grandmother had had a serious illness and had lived for 30 years in a state hospital, which they believed was a mental hospital. Our mother left the family when Maicon was very young. She has been out of touch with us, and they thought she might have been treated for mental health problems.
Maicon agreed to sign himself into the psychiatric unit for treatment. The whole family except I had agreed to have Maicon transferred to a mental asylum. I knew inwardly there was still some plausible means by which my kid brother could overcome this condition. I knew botanical means of treatment will be more favorable than any other type of treatment, and as such, I had taken a keen interest in the research of naturopathic alternative measures suitable for the treatment of schizophrenia. I had pleaded for some little patience from the family in the delay of the transfer, I was looking forward to proving a point to the entire family, of a positive botanical remedy for this condition.
It was during my ceaseless search on the internet I had been fortunate enough to come across Dr. Utu Herbal Cure: an African herbalist and witch doctor whose professional works had majored on the eradication of certain viral conditions, especially schizophrenia, ( improving the memory capacity positively), via a traditional, naturopathic process and distinguished diet plan. It was by the administration of this herbal specialist that my brother had been able to improve his condition for better.
Before the naturopathic remedy - Maicon's story had reflected a common case, in which a high-functioning young adult goes through a major decline in day-to-day skills. Although family and friends may feel this is a loss of the person they knew, the illness can be treated and a good outcome is possible.
My brother Maicon is just like many other patients out there suffering from this disease. Although he was able to overcome this condition via a naturopathic herbal remedy administered by this African herbal physician and saved completely thus, rekindling the lost joy which had been experienced by the family members.
I wish to use this opportunity to reach across to anyone who may happen to be diagnosed with this disastrous condition to spread the hope of an everlasting herbal remedy that is capable of imposing a permanent end to this disease.
For more information concerning this naturopathic herbal remedy, feel free to contact this African herbal practitioner via email:
drutuherbalcure@gmail.com