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Many years ago, I attended a case conference where Hypnosis Motivation Institute instructor Lisa Machenberg, C.Ht.,
described how she helped someone to regard even the negative, inconvenient
aspects of car ownership in terms of being a privilege. Apparently this individual was procrastinating about
getting new tires for his car because not having a vehicle for one morning would
be inconvenient and expensive. His justification for not doing anything to
facilitate the repair was: “Hey, the car is still drivable, so what is the
rush?”
Ms. Machenberg said the client eventually became motivated to get the tires
changed when they explored the benefits—independence, convenience, the
enjoyment of driving—and the potential consequences of not taking the car in. The greatest inspiration for him turned out
to be the potential financial burden of having to pay for additional repairs to
the body of his or another person’s car if a flat or blown-out tire caused a
crash. At this point in the conversation, she said, they discussed how the
benefits of car-ownership is as much a privilege as taking good care of the
vehicle is a responsibility. This message became incorporated in the hypnotic
script she created for his hypnotherapy. It also so resonated with me in terms
of how I feel about owning a horse that I use it as a kind of mantra to keep
persevering in my riding and how I take care of him, as well as to remind
Galahad how much I love and appreciate him.
As most equestrians (and even
non-riders) know, riding and owning a horse is an expensive investment of time,
money and emotion. Depending whom you ask, it can be a toss-up which one of
these resources is most expensive at any one time. Despite their strength, size
and speed, these animals are actually more fragile in some ways than they seem.
For example, the extreme changes in summer-like temperatures we are
experiencing in Southern California pose a greater risk of colic. (Who else has
the barn veterinarian’s phone number on speed dial this week?) A training
mishap can result in a pulled muscle, tendon or ligament for horse or rider. As
the price of hay gets higher every season, finding a good deal on what we feed
our equine partner also becomes more challenging and frustrating. After a heavy
rain we must determine that the footing is good enough to turn the horse out to
play or ride without risk of injuring the animal. Then there is the herculean
effort it will take on our part to clean the gray gelding up after he enjoys rolling
in the fresh mud that it looks like his original black coat has grown back. And
so the list goes on.
By the time we’re done riding and have completed all the barn chores at
the end of the day, all we want to do is get in a hot shower or bubble bath and
wash the dirt and stress away. But, wait. The horse still needs to be properly
cooled out, cleaned up and “tucked in” before we can do any of the other stuff.
And that is what I mean by responsibility and privilege of owning a horse.
There is a common expression around most barns: If you don’t have time
to groom, you don’t have time to ride. When I was a teen-ager, all I wanted to
do was get on a horse and go, go, go; grooming afterward was not something I
looked forward to and, in all honesty, I probable did a barely acceptable job. At
that time, I didn’t have my own horse and there was always someone at the barn
who would do the “dirty work” that students like me didn’t like or want to do.
But my attitude did a complete 180-degree turn when I grew up and got a horse
of my own.
I like to believe that the more time I spend grooming and hanging out
with him or just watching him play with the other geldings in his herd, are opportunities
where we do the most bonding. This is the time where the responsibility of
horse-ownership truly is a privilege. Yes, riding is great and it is a lot of
fun. The reward and pride I feel for both of us when we finally get those
20-meter circles round and circles is
immense. But nothing is as wonderful, to me, as feeling my horse stretching his
neck closer and into the curry comb while I massage the dust and dirt out of
his coat afterward.
There is nothing like the sound of his teeth crunching on a slice of
apple or carrot when I reward him for working so hard for me during our lesson in
the arena. There is nothing like hearing my trainer praise Galahad about his
progress and improved skills after she finishes schooling him. There is nothing
like how happy and proud I am when Galahad is able to calmly walk past barking dogs
or that new donkey at a neighbor’s property during one of our neighborhood strolls.
His calm demeanor at those moments are testament to his temperament as well as
the time spent working to increase his self-confidence and trust in me when he
feels challenged or threatened. There is nothing like the relief I feel when
the veterinarian gives my horse a clean bill of health, or after Galahad’s
hooves are trimmed or he has been wormed. And, yes, there is nothing like the
satisfaction I feel each month when I pay for his board and training, or even when
I pay dues to renew his insurance and breed memberships.
Like the client described at the beginning of this essay, horse
ownership—like car ownership—is undoubtedly an incredible privilege. Horses
bring so much joy, fun and pleasure to our lives that the time, physical effort and expense seem inconsequential. Knowing that one of these big
(or small), powerful prey animals will cooperate, trust and even seem to seek
our companionship is a wonderful honor to anyone who has an equine partner in
his or her life.
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