Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Suggested Reading



(This blog was originally posted on January 13, 2015)

 
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Long before I began my hypnotherapy training at the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2004, I found several “self-help” authors whose philosophies really resonated with me. I loved the way Dr. Jeffers encouraged people to push themselves just that little bit further than they thought (believed) they could go to achieve their goal. She even provided practical tips and exercises to help them “chunk down” a potentially daunting task into more manageable and achievable steps to encourage the person to keep striving toward success. 


Long before I ever heard of the Law of Attraction I was reading the affirmations of Frances Scovel Shinn, a 20th Century artist and metaphysics teacher. Her books, especially The Game of Life (and How to Play It) and Your Word is Your Wand, had a profound effect on me: they taught me how my thoughts and attitudes could transform events that transpired in my life. By the time I learned about HMI founder John Kappas, Ph.D.’s Mental Bank Concept I was well-versed in the various ways my beliefs could attract or even repel opportunities for prosperity.


When it comes to philosophies about riding and training horses, Monty Roberts’ teachings have had the most profound effect on me. I love the way he always puts the horse first: his interactions with these animals are gentle, subtle and respectful. When I learned that he had written a book about the ways his Join-Up Technique could be successfully applied to support and fortify relationships between humans, I rushed to buy and read it. To my delight, this model is a wonderful complement to Dr. Kappas’s model of Emotional and Physical (sexual) personalities and how E and P characteristics interact to create a successful or unsuccessful relationship.


Finally, M.J. Ryan’s book about patience taught me that taking the time (and a deep breath) to allow things to occur naturally is more likely to yield that productive, desired outcome than rushing to finish that project.


I hope you enjoy reading these books as much as I have. I look forward to reading your feedback about them and/or recommendations about other self-improvement books that you have enjoyed reading and influenced you in some way.



  • Jeffers, Ph.D., Susan. (1991) Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway London: Arrow Books
  • Jeffers, Ph.D., Susan. (1996) End the Struggle and Dance With Life Great Britain: Hodder and Stoughton
  • Kappas, Ph.D., John G. (1987) Success Is not an Accident: The Mental Bank Concept. Van Nuys, CA: Panorama Publishing Company
  • Kappas, Ph.D., John G. (1992) Relationship Strategies: The E & P Attraction. Van Nuys, CA: Panorama Publishing Company
  • Roberts, Monty. (2003) Horse Sense for People: Using the Gentle Wisdom of the Join-Up Technique to Enrich Our Relationships at Home and at Work. Canada: Alfred A. Knopf
  • Ryan, M.J. (2003) The Power of Patience: How to Slow the Rush and Enjoy More Happiness, Success, and Peace of Mind Every Day. Broadway Books
  • Scovel-Shinn, Florence. (1925) The Game of Life and How to Play It. Bridgend, England: L.N. Fowler & Co. Ltd.
  • Scovel-Shinn, Florence. (1928) Your Word Is Your Wand. Romford, England: L.N. Fowler & Co. Ltd.
  • Scovel-Shinn, Florence. (?) The Secret Door to Success. Romford, England: L.N. Fowler & Co. Ltd.



               





Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified clinical hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

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Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Confounding Variables




(This blog was originally posted on June 9, 2014)



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“Confounding variables” is a concept in statistics where two or more discrete variables can interact in such a way that it is impossible to determine which factor had the greatest impact on the results of the study. Statistics was my least-favorite class in college, but I remain very interested in the way confounding variables affect so many areas of our lives, in “real” life. They impact our work and personal relationships; they influence how we feel physically and emotionally at different times of the day, week, month or year. Everything you see, smell, taste, hear or touch can interact with another factor (or person) to produce a specific response; but that reaction may be completely different in an hour or if one of the stimuli changes.

For example, imagine that you are sitting at your desk at work, about to open your mail. Your colleague peeks over the top of the cubicle divider to invite you to join her for lunch, and the cloying sweet scent of her perfume fills your nostrils. You politely decline the invitation and start to open the first envelop when a wave of nausea rolls over you. Whoa. You skipped breakfast this morning; maybe you are hungrier than you thought, and a low blood-sugar level triggered this symptom. Alternatively, your sensitivity to strong smells, especially to perfumes and colognes, could have made you feel queasy. It’s no wonder that this particular scent set you off, since your ex also used to wear the same brand. Then you notice that the letter you just opened is from a particularly demanding client; he wants to know why his last order still hasn’t arrived. Cue the sense of panic, palpitations, shortness of breath and cold sweat. 

You know that each of these stimuli can induce stress in you. The tricky thing about confounding variables is that you may not be able to identify which one has triggered your reaction at that moment. If you feel overwhelmed by what is going on around you, take a moment or two to do diaphragmatic breathing to help you relax and increase your ability to focus on what is going on inside and around you. (If you feel overwhelmed while you are driving, pull your car over to the side of the road or, even better, into a parking lot so you can concentrate on this exercise.) Once you are feeling calmer, do a quick mental scan of what is going on in your life at that moment that could have triggered the stress reaction or anxiety. If you haven’t eaten in a long time, have a snack or a small meal that contains protein to help regulate you blood-sugar level and alleviate symptoms such as dizziness, irritability and confusion. (If you are experiencing physical symptoms of distress, such as chest pain, seek medical help immediately.) I also recommend to my clients that they do EFT (emotional-freedom technique) or “tapping” to individually address the factors that they believe to be exacerbating their distress. 

Remember that in real life, as in research, it is necessary to identify and separate the factors that influence our unwanted behavior so we can affect the changes we want to make in our lives.



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Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified clinical hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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