Friday, May 26, 2017

Thoughts of the Day

Photo by Sara Fogan





      Every now and then I like (and need) to take a few moments and remind myself about what is really important to me, in my life. If you follow me on my Calminsense Hypnotherapy Facebook page you may have seen some of these quotes before on this page, or will in the future. Many of these Quotes of the Day are beautiful examples and illustrations of the work I do as a hypnotherapist, so I will probably draw on them in future essays.


  • “To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe.” Anatole France

  • The smallest deed is better than the grandest intention.” – Roger Baldwin

  • “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” – Albert Einstein


  • “Excellence is never an accident; it is the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction, skillful execution and the vision to see obstacles as opportunities.” – Anonymous

  • “Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.” – Eleanor Roosevelt


  • “On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a joyous energy behind what you do.” – Eckhart  Tolle

  • “Unless you change the way you see things, they will remain the same.” – Lolly Daskal

  • “A good friend is cheaper than therapy.” Author Unknown






Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified clinical hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
© 2017

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Coming in for a Tune-Up

(This blog was originally posted on March 8, 2016)

Photo by Rick Hustead




Each year, most of us go to the doctor, or take our kids to the pediatrician or our pets to the veterinarian to get a wellness check-up. We take our cars in to the shop for a tune-up. If your profession requires you to renew your professional license to continue working, you might attend a conference to refresh your knowledge and take a written test to update your certification. And so on.

Hypnotherapy is a great tool for “tuning up” our subconscious and conscious mind by reinforcing positive, healthy lifestyle choices and behaviors while you focus on pursuing new self-improvement goals. For example, athletes often describe how they continuously practice and hone their skills until they become muscle memory. Not only does conscious thought become unnecessary to achieve the desired technique, but many say that thinking about what they are doing, at all, is often an impediment to their success. Similarly, dancers continue to practice and review the foundation movements of their art even as they learn and perfect new techniques and choreography. They know that it is equally important to reinforce the subtle, mental nuances of their art as it is to keep their muscles strong and flexible.

 This is also true of everyday activities and habits. If we do not practice the desired behavior or belief system until it, too, becomes automatic. However, when we are confronted with a challenge or stressful situation, it is easy to slip back into those previous, unwanted habits or beliefs simply because they are so familiar and comfortable. A tune-up hypnotherapy session is an effective way to reinforce those positive, healthy and desired behaviors. In hypnosis, the physical body becomes very comfortable and relaxed, which enables the subconscious mind to accept and incorporate message units (information) into new subconscious knowns. The subconscious mind quickly and easily assimilates these hypnotic suggestions because they are simply reiterations of a previous script. In this situation, hypnotherapy is used to reinforce the desired behavior(s) being an automatic response even during a challenging or stressful situation.




Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified clinical hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
© 2017


Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Getting Control in the Relationship


(This blog was originally posted on April 4, 2016)

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When it comes to relationships, Physical Sexual and Emotional Sexual partners have very different needs and desires. A Physical Sexual controls the Emotional Sexual partner with guilt. Relationships are very important to this personality, and if the relationship ever seems to be in jeopardy the Physical Sexual will do just about anything to rescue and preserve the relationship.

Whereas the Physical Sexual experiences very little guilt, the Emotional Sexual partner is laden with it, observed Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder Dr. John Kappas. Therefore, to maintain control in the relationship, the Physical Sexual partner must never release that hold until the person gets what he or she wants, he advised. The Physical Sexual is also easily hurt, such as in instances of betrayal, and can be vindictive. “They really hold onto that hurt,” he said.

Conversely, the Emotional Sexual controls a Physical Sexual partner by rejection or withholding emotion. The Emotional Sexual tends to be defensive and protective, and generally has difficulty expressing his or her true feelings, Dr. Kappas explained. Furthermore, the Emotional Sexual also gets over failed relationships fairly quickly. This personality tends to need more spare and does not place as high a priority on relationships as the Physical Sexual tends to do. The more the Emotional Sexual withdraws to create more space for him- or herself in the relationship, the more desperate the Physical becomes to reconnect. Paradoxically, this behavior only irritates the Emotional Sexual partner, and he or she tends to withdraw from the partner even more.

Sex is another area where the Emotional and Physical partners tend to try to control each other, the hypnotherapist pointed out. Both male and female Physical Sexual partners crave closeness after intercourse, but an Emotional Sexual male wants to get his orgasm over with and move on to something else. Whereas a Physical Sexual female wants her partner to “prove” that he cares about her through intimacy, a Physical Sexual male can control his partner through his release (ejaculation), Dr. Kappas said. Finally, the Emotional Sexual female wants to figure out how to manipulate or control her Physically Sexual male partner.

“It’s a lot easier for a hypnotherapist to work with couples where there’s an Emotional Sexual female and a Physical Sexual male, because it’s easier to ‘mold’ the Emotional Sexual female than it is to mold the Emotional Sexual male. Plus, she suffers a lot of guilt,” Dr. Kappas said.

For more information about how to address the Emotional Sexual and Physical Sexual personalities’ response to rejection, I invite you to check out my blog titled, Dealing With Rejection in Hypnotherapy.





Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified clinical hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
© 2017