(This blog was
originally posted on June 15, 2016)
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| Photo by Rick Hustead |
“In
the midst of change we often discover wings we never
knew
we had.” – Ekaterina Walter
On Saturday, October 27, 2018, a lone gunman armed with an AR-15 rifle
and two handguns burst into the Tree
of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania and opened fire on the
congregants during their worship services. Eleven adults died in the attack;
the victims’ ages ranged from 54 to a 97-year-old woman who had survived the Holocaust.
The shooter reportedly wanted to kill all the Jews. The physician on-call that
day (and a member of the Tree of Life Synagogue) later told interviewers that
the shooter even disclosed this goal to him and the rest of his medical/surgical
staff (also Jewish) when they were preparing to treat his gunshot wound. The Anti-Defamation League has declared this
incident as the deadliest anti-Semitic hate crime in United States’ history.
Saturday’s shooting is just one in a string of mass shootings over the
past year or so. Last week, social media was filled with tributes to the
victims of the shooting at the Route
91 Harvest Festival at Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas, Nevada, on Sunday,
October 1, 2017. On that night, a lone gunman allegedly adapted an automatic
rifle to open fire on thousands of attendees at event. At the time this blog
was originally posted, more than 500 people were injured and 59 people died of
injuries they sustained. This event has been called the worst single-shooting
in modern American history, surpassing the carnage at Pulse Night Club in
Orlando, Florida on June 12, 2016. Even
before Sunday's shooting, however, various attacks ranging from a terrorist
bombing during pop star Ariana Grande’s concert in Manchester, England, in May 2017 to
vehicle and knife attacks on European streets have claimed countless lives.
In the past year, scores of people have died and many more sustained serious
injury in various incidents in which terrorists drove vehicles into crowds
gathered at popular tourist sites in England, France, Spain, Canada and the
United States.
These tragedies have required us to change not only an attitude or
belief system, but our very way of life. If we can't be, let alone feel, safe at place of worship, a concert
or meandering down the street in a populated location, where can we go? It’s
not an impossible thing to do, but at the moment tragedy strikes, it certainly
seems that way. How do we go on after something like that?
Grief
comes in many different forms, and each one of us grieves and mourns in
different ways for the loss we have experienced. There is no time limit or
restriction when it comes to feeling sadness, anger/rage or even in disbelief
about the specific tragedy we have experienced. These emotions can feel
overwhelming and often come in waves (versus “stages”). In one moment we laugh
while we think about the special, loving, fun times with the person who has
died; in the next, we can’t stop sobbing, inconsolable.
But it also at times like this that we usually discover, eventually,
inner resources to keep on going, keep on living and keep on loving. With the
love and support of other friends, relatives and social resources, we re-discover
that source of inner strength we forgot we always had, the one that helped us
get through a previous challenge or loss. Sometimes, it feels like learning how
to walk for the first time: step by step, one foot in front of the other. Baby steps.
And then, one day, we wake up and experience maybe one moment, an hour, or just
a few seconds of optimism about something in our lives. It may not be complete
happiness or joy, but just a flash of brightness—a sensation of lightness or collateral
beauty—that reminds us that those other, positive, long-forgotten emotions
are still possible.
Maybe not today or even tomorrow, but someday. And on days like these, that
possibility is cause for hope and even motivation to take those steps.
I would like to offer my deepest condolences to all of the victims,
survivors and family members and friends of these shootings. These senseless
and tragic losses of life will always be remembered and mourned.
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