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Just over one
week ago, American voters cast their ballots and elected a new president of the
United States. The election was one of the most acrimonious such events the
country has ever had and many, many citizens are still reeling from the
results. Indeed, every night since then several major cities in the United
States have seen protests; there has even been some violence and riot police
have been called out to try to control the crowds. Fear is the cause of this,
too. But, why is there so much (more) fear about this election, compared to others we have had in the past?
I think a lot
of it stems from all the “unknowns”
in this election cycle. Whereas one candidate was very establishment, the other—now,
President-Elect—was outside just about every theoretical and behavioral model
of a politician we have ever seen or heard. We had grown used to the way
certain things are and were done, and expected to enjoy (or suffer) more of the
same for at least another four years. To everyone’s great surprise, American
citizens’ collective frustration, anger and even fear of that prospect becoming
a reality motivated millions of them to vote for the person who promised to
make the changes his constituents want to see.
It might
surprise you to learn that even getting what you want can be scary. The two major political parties in the United
States may share similar ideals for how to make the United States the best
country it can be, but their strategies and plans to attain those goals are
often very different. We have become used to one way of doing things; now, we must
shift gears again and open our minds and even hearts to a new approach and a
new style of getting all that done. Already, some of the political rhetoric is
raising eyebrows and defenses. A lot is about to change, and these events may
feel and seem out of your control. But that doesn’t mean all the other areas of
your life have to follow suit. Following are some practical suggestions to help
you negotiate this transition:
- Eat well: Good nutrition is a very important tool to help keep anxiety down. Drops in blood-sugar levels can affect mood, increasing levels of frustration and anxiety. Be sure to eat healthy, nutritious and delicious meals that include some form of protein (meat or plant-based are both okay) to keep your energy level up and minimize those negative emotions.
- Get enough rest: Sleep is very important because this is the time your body gets to rest and your subconscious mind has a chance to release (vent) the emotional baggage you have been carrying around all day. This process occurs during the early-morning venting dream. When you do not let go of all that “stuff” in a dream, you are at increased risk of stimulus overload and a subsequent loss of the critical thinking/reasoning process. This, in turn, makes you more vulnerable to making impulsive or even risky or dangerous decisions that could put you in physical danger: e.g., dozing at the wheel while driving or even getting into an altercation with someone whose temper is also flared.
- Just breathe: If and when you notice that you are becoming frustrated or angry, practice taking slow, deep breaths to slow down your racing mind and (likely) increased pulse. Diaphragmatic breathing entails drawing a slow, deep breath through your nose; holding it four three or four seconds and then releasing the air through your mouth. This technique relaxes the tension in your physical body as well as provides a tangible example (proof) that you can control a specific physical behavior. Repeat this exercise several times until you notice that your pulse/heartbeat returns to its normal (resting) rate. Power breathing is another great tool to help release negative emotions through forceful exhalation of the breath.
- Change your perspective. Or, as Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder Dr. John Kappas liked to say, take the negative aspects of the situation and turn it around. Even when you can’t change what’s actually going on, it is usually true that changing the way you look at that situation change the way you ultimately experience it. For example, even if your candidate did not win this election, look for some trait/characteristic or political ideal he espouses that you can respect or even admire. Or, focus on the political process that allows American citizens an opportunity and freedom to choose a leader they want to represent them and their dreams, in the first place.
Finally, keep
living your life. Love your partner or spouse. Spend time with your family. Enjoy favorite hobbies, listen to your favorite music, read books or
magazines, etc. that you like. Continue to make plans and dream, and pursue
all those leads to see your dreams
come true, too.
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified
hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from
the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in 2005. For more
information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an
appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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