Hypnotherapy and Divorce

(This blog was originally posted on September 4, 2014)

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Hypnotherapy can facilitate divorce mediation proceedings by

Helping the spouses reach an amicable settlement.

 

If a couple decides to divorce but cannot amicably agree on a settlement, the petition is likely to go to a jury and mediation will be required. Hypnotherapy can help ease the tension between the estranged spouses and facilitate an amicable (or at least, less hostile) divorce.

Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder John Kappas, Ph.D., believed that a hypnotherapist can facilitate the mediation by helping both parties to construct an equitable settlement and encourage them to seek counsel from separate attorneys. The hypnotherapist’s professional stance in divorce mediation should always be one of objectivity and non-judgment, he continued. “You only need a mediator if one party contests the divorce,” Dr. Kappas said. “Have the facts already agreed/discussed before you get to court. If you’re volatile in court, the judge almost always rules against you.” 

Dr. Kappas recommended that the hypnotherapist explain Emotional and Physical Sexuality to the couple to enlighten them about each other’s behavioral patterns and motivations and work toward a settlement that both people can live with. Specifically, the hypnotherapist can help to ease tension between the estranged spouses, such as if a partner wants to “hang on” to the relationship or seeks revenge on an unfaithful spouse. In that case, the hypnotherapist may employ hypnotherapeutic techniques to address anger, guilt, sadness/disappointment and rejection by guiding the person through the stages of loss, systematic desensitization and de-loving techniques. A hypnotherapist can also work with the client to build or re-build the person’s self-confidence and self-esteem, accept responsibility his or her role in the break-up, and motivate the individual to pursue new interests.

In terms of mediation proceedings, Dr. Kappas recommended that the divorce lawyer(s) be included in the therapy sessions. Payment to each professional should be equal for each session. The attorney would be responsible for explaining the divorce proceedings and give the couple a mediation sheet that outlines each spouse’s equity. The hypnotherapist would help each partner “agree to disagree and work out hostility between the spouses.”

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/

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And Your Handwriting Says...Part 2

(This blog was originally posted on June 19, 2014)

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   Handwriting is an ideomotor response that provides insight into the writer’s subconscious mind. I explained the role of handwriting analysis in my hypnotherapy practice and identified some specific traits I look at in each HWA in two of my previous blogs (Handwriting Analysis for Hypnotherapy and And Your Handwriting Says). Here, I will describe several other prominent handwriting characteristics I look at and what these traits say about the writer’s suggestibility (how we learn), subconscious behaviors and motivations.

           

    Here are a few more handwriting characteristics that I look at:

·         Spacing (between letters): The size—or amount of space—between letters indicate the writer’s width or narrowness of thinking. The less space there is indicates that the writer has a narrow view and is less willing to take risks in his or her life.

·         Spacing (between words): The amount of space between words indicates social maturity. The less space there is between words suggests that the individual needs people and attention. However, this person is unlikely to be open to what others say or believe.

·         Spacing (between zones): A writer who leaves more space between lines of writing indicates that he or she tends to be generous, courageous and independent.

·         Size of letters: The size of each letter indicates the writer’s opinion of him- or herself. Small writing suggests that the person tends to be thrifty and may not have many friends; however, he or she is capable of deep concentration and extreme attention to detail. Average-size writing indicates someone who tends to conform to social expectations and exhibits normal caution and reserve. Someone who has large writing tends to be extroverted (social) and takes the initiative; he or she needs to be noticed. Someone who has very-large writing may be aggressive and single-minded, possibly rebellious.

·         Variable size of writing: If the size of the writing increases, this suggests that the person’s communication style tends to be blunt. When the size of the writing decreases, the writer’s communication style tends to be diplomatic and conforming.

·         Fancy/ornate writing: This style is identified by many swirls and embellishments of the writing. The writer tends to be someone who “must” be at the center of attention; it may also indicate someone who possesses an artistic personality, or someone who is acting out or showing off.

These are just a few more indicators of personality that I look at when I analyze handwriting in my hypnotherapy practice. For more information about handwriting analysis, or if you would like to request an in-depth analysis of your own writing, please send me an e-mail or call me at (661) 433-9430.

 Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy®, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

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