Thoughts of the Day

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Every now and then I like (and need) to take a few moments and remind myself about what is really important to me, in my life. If you follow me on my Calminsense Hypnotherapy Facebook page you may have seen some of these quotes before on this page, or will in the future. Many of these Quotes of the Day are beautiful examples and illustrations of the work I do as a hypnotherapist, so I will probably draw on them in future essays.

• “Worry less about your net worth and more about your net impact.” – Darren Hardy
• “Ability will never catch up with the need for it.” – Confucius
• “Let your desire to be yourself be greater than your desire to fit in.” – Necole Stephens
• “There are too many people in the world to let just one keep you down.” – Alfie Deyes
• “Complaining about your current circumstances is the glue that keeps you attached to them.” – Peter Sage
• “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” – Anne Frank
• “Experience this moment with the heart and allow the mind to take care of the future.” – Lolly Daskal
• “You are responsible for the energy you bring into a room. Choose peace and joy.” – Dr. Romie Mushtaq
• “The Common Eye sees only the outside of things. But the Seeing Eye reads the heart and soul.” – Mark Twain
• “Love is the desire to be desired and the desire to meet the desires of your desired.” – Bille Baty

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Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. In July 2019 she was voted the Best Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita, California. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2020

Give Yourself Permission

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Safety and legal restrictions aside, has it ever occurred to you that one of the reasons why you don’t try something you really want to do is that you don’t allow yourself to do it? By “allow,” I am referring to your subconscious mind and your subconscious mental script.

When I was in junior-high and high school there was an unspoken expectation that “girls weren’t good at math.” Of course, some of them absolutely were, but I bought into that stereotype to such an extent that I likely sabotaged my success in those classes. It got to the point where my high-school geometry teacher suggested I talk to my academic advisor about transferring to a different class. Both men were surprised I was an honor student except for that class. Long story short, I asked my neighbor—my “surrogate mom” who was not only a teacher but also happened to be very good at math—to tutor me after school. I worked very hard to improve my overall grade, and I was the only one to earn a 100-percent score on the first-semester final exam.

Is this an example of giving myself permission to succeed or just hard work and determination to succeed? I think it is a bit of both. I didn’t know about subconscious mental scripts back then, but I am confident that my attitude and desire to change that current negative situation into a positive one. In my subconscious mind, I had to give myself permission to believe that a different outcome was possible to become willing to put in the hard work that would help me achieve my goal.

These days I have a much better understanding about how the subconscious mind works, so I typically include a suggestion to “give yourself permission” when I work with my hypnotherapy clients. For example, it is not uncommon for someone who has never been hypnotized to feel nervous or even resist going into the hypnotic state during the first hypnotherapy session. This may also be true during subsequent sessions when a client is working on letting go of an unwanted belief, habit or behavior. However, once I offer the hypnotic suggestion for the individual’s subconscious mind to give permission to change that behavior, acceptance of this new belief becomes obvious as the client’s breathing deepens and the physical body becomes more visibly relaxed.

It may also be necessary to give yourself permission to do something during your day-to-day life, even when you are not in hypnosis or at a hypnotherapy session. Some people, especially women, may find it difficult to set personal boundaries and say “no” when they really don’t want to do something or accept another role/responsibility at work. It is okay to say no. It is also okay to say yes. So starting right now, so long as it you are not imposing your will or desires on anyone else, go ahead and do what makes you feel comfortable. Try something new and do something that you want to do. Give yourself permission to believe in yourself and your ability to succeed!

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

© 2016