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(This blog was originally posted on August 4, 2014)
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In
1967, psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe conducted a study to identify
which stressful life events cause physical illness.1 They published
the results of this study as the Social Readjustment Rating Scale.
It comes as little or no surprise that Holmes and Rahe’s research rated death
of a spouse, divorce and marital separation, respectively, as the three most
stressful life events. Whatever the cause, letting go of a relationship can be
very difficult and painful. For some people, it is traumatic. In this blog, I explain
how experiencing grief and working through the five stages of loss during
hypnotherapy can help you accept that the relationship is finished.
When
someone is having trouble accepting that the relationship is over, Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder John Kappas, Ph.D., advised taking the
client through the stages of grief and loss2 during hypnotherapy.
Although there are five stages of loss, it is important to remember that not
everyone experiences each stage of grief or even go through them consecutively.
It is also possible to repeat these stages and to experience one or more at the
same time.
- Stage 1: Denial, characterized by shock and numbness, and refusing to accept that the relationship is over.
- Stage 2: Resentment. Anger at the other person(s) in the relationship or anyone else who is around.
- Stage 3: Bargaining, wherein the person tries to make a deal with God, themselves and other people in his or her life to just get the person/relationship back.
- Stage 4: Grief. This stage is characterized by crying and/or emotional withdrawal. (If the person is crying excessively, I would also require a medical or psychological referral so I could address this issue in hypnosis.)
- Stage 5: Resolution. During this final stage of grief and mourning, the person starts to get his or her life back on track. The individual begins to feel more hopeful and accepts the fact that the relationship is over, the other person(s) is not coming back.
Remember:
the emotional pain we experience at the end of a significant relationship isn’t
just sadness about the person who is no longer in our lives. We also feel pain
because we have lost or can no longer follow an important subconscious mental script or
“known” in our subconscious mind. Regardless of the quality of that bond,
disengaging from it and the habits or behaviors you have practiced during the
relationship entails breaking script. Now, you must venture into the unknown experience of being independent
from that relationship. I use therapeutic guided imagery to facilitate the
process of forgiveness—of the self and the other person(s)—to help you heal and
leave the finished relationship behind. I also employ guided imagery to help
you relax and increase/rebuild your self-confidence, improve your self-esteem
and reinforce your self-image as you forge this new path.
It is only when we can say goodbye with love
and respect to the lost relationship and the person(s) we shared it with that we
can truly move forward in our lives.
1)
Holmes TH, Rahe RH (1967). "The Social
Readjustment Rating Scale". J Psychosom Res 11 (2): 213–8.
2)
Kübler-Ross,
E. (1969) On Death and Dying, Routledge, ISBN 0-415-04015-9
Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a
certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with
honors from the Hypnosis Motivation
Institute in 2005.
Sara has been voted the Best Hypnotherapist in Santa Clarita, California, three
years in a row (July 2019, September 2020, July 2021). For more information
about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please
visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.
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