Thursday, January 1, 2015

Two Routes, One Destination

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                In life, there are often several routes we can take to reach the same destination or techniques we can use to achieve the same goal. I find it interesting that once we have chosen a specific path or method, we are very reluctant to try the alternative.

                A couple weeks ago, I suggested to my dad that he drive to my nephew’s school Christmas pageant the same way I go to see my horse. I knew that this route would enable him to avoid both the round-about on the freeway exit and having to make a left-hand turn into the school parking lot. To my surprise, he was very resistant about going the way I suggested. To my surprise, it turned out he had never driven that way to the school, which accounted for his initial protest about taking this unfamiliar route. I had to admit that I felt a pang of sympathy for him. Even though it was known and comfortable for me because I almost always drive the route I was encouraging him to take, once upon a time, I felt the exact same way about it. Maybe one day it will become this familiar and comfortable for my dad, as well.

                Several years ago, I used to always go to the barn the same way my dad wanted to drive to the school. I was aware that a simpler, more direct route existed; there was even an alternative that avoided the freeways altogether. However, since I had never gone either way I was wary about going any way other than the way I was used to. It was so familiar that I barely had to think about when to turn or where. It was comfortable and known, a subconscious mental script that I (almost) could have driven to the barn with my eyes closed. It didn’t matter that I had a GPS in my car and several local maps I could use if I took a wrong turn. It didn’t matter that I had lived in the area for most of my life and, theoretically, already knew—or should have known—how to at least find my way home if I got lost. I had no reason or desire to change this habit, so I didn’t—until “my” freeway ramp was closed for landscaping and I had no choice but to take the path unknown.

                I plugged the alternate route into my GPS, took a deep breath and started to drive according to the GPS Voice’s instructions. So what if I had to get on the freeway a few exits over from my usual starting point? I asked myself as I merged into traffic. I soon realized that I had been worried for no reason when I started to recognize familiar road signs and landmarks that reassured me I really was going the right way. I even discovered that this new route even had some perks: I had to make fewer left-hand turns and fewer lane-changes, and my overall drive time was actually a little shorter. Best of all, I didn’t have to deal with that round-about where I usually exited the freeway. After driving this way a few times, I became so comfortable and confident taking this new route that it became a new mental script but even my preferred way to drive out to this part of the city.

 

               

                               

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

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