Forgiveness

(This blog was originally posted on September 15, 2014)

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Have you ever got stuck in a blame-game with someone, refusing to accept some responsibility for your role in the situation or to accept the other person’s apology for hurting you? Do you ever hold onto the anger and emotional pain about something that occurred so long ago that you don’t even feel those emotions anymore but keep holding onto them because…you don’t even know why? Would you be willing to let go of all that negative energy if you knew this release would help you feel better, to be at peace and free you from the emotional baggage you have been dragging around? 

I recently saw this quote from Inspirationboost.com, and it really resonated with me: “Forgive. Not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” 

At some point during our lifetime, someone hurts us. This injury may be physical or metaphoric, intentional or accidental, but long after the physical wounds have healed some emotional scars continue to feel raw. To assuage this pain and gain a sense of control over what happened, we may claim that the injury was justified or believe that we somehow brought it on ourselves. Indeed, it can be very difficult to see past this pain when someone you once cared about is hurling verbal and legal barbs your way during an acrimonious divorce or dissolution of a business or social relationship. You may even resent and even guilt/shame for having ever trusted him or her with your heart (and your finances).

The problem with holding onto these negative emotions is you are the one who continues to suffer emotional pain long after the relationship is ended and you and the other person have parted ways for good. Whenever you dwell on the negative events that happened during the relationship and the sadness or anger that you felt at the time, you reinforce the strength and the habit of feeling (and feeding) those negative emotions. This continued bombardment of thoughts, memories and negative associations with the past relationship overloads the conscious mind, triggering the fight/flight mechanism and putting you in an even more hyper-suggestible state (hypnosis). Since we are most suggestible to ourselves, every time we repeat a thought or behavior you reinforce its strength and power in your subconscious mind. In other words, you are hypnotizing yourself to perpetuate this unwanted behavior. Ultimately, the most effective way to heal from that hurt is to forgive the person who inflicted it so you can pursue the life that you want and deserve to be living.

       

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

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Thoughts of the Day

Photo by Maureen Perry Campbell

Every now and then I like (and need) to take a few moments and remind myself about what is really important to me, in my life. If you follow me on my Calminsense Hypnotherapy Facebook page you may have seen some of these quotes before on this page, or will in the future. Many of these Quotes of the Day are beautiful examples and illustrations of the work I do as a hypnotherapist, so I will probably draw on them in future essays.

• “Some people find fault like there is a reward for it.” – Zig Ziglar

• “One of the tests of leadership is the ability to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency.” – Arnold H. Glasgow

• “Sometimes you face difficulties not because you’re doing something wrong, but because you’re doing something right.” – Kushandwizdom

• “Intelligence looks for what is known to solve problems. Creativity looks for what is unknown to discover possibilities.” - Simon Sinek

• “There is a big difference between knowing yourself and understanding yourself.” – Lolly Daskal

• “Grace is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.” – Unknown

• “There’s no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let people get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.” – @911Well

• “Challenges make life interesting, however, overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Mark Twain

• “Shame is a soul eating emotion.” – C.G. Jung

• “Those who are free of resentful thoughts surely find peace.” – Buddha

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Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

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The Relationship Between Low Blood Sugar and Fear of Loud Noise

(This blog was originally posted on November 15, 2016)

Photo by Rick Hustead

When you experience a drop in blood-sugar level, it is possible to mistake or attribute the environmental stimulus or event as causing any physiological distress you experience at that time. However, the confusion, headaches, tremors, cold sweats, increased anxiety, etc., are actually symptoms of low blood-sugar levels and not specific consequences of what is going on around you. For example, the late Hypnosis Motivation Institute founder John Kappas, Ph.D. once worked with a client to help her overcome her fear of loud noises. He explained how nutrition can affect these levels; specifically, how low blood sugar can trigger the physical symptoms she had been experiencing. The hypnotherapist concluded that his client’s fear of loud noise was actually associated with agoraphobia (fear of open spaces), as her anxiety about this stimulus essentially kept her house-bound. Her extreme sensitivity to loud noise was exacerbated by her low blood-sugar level, which in turn strengthened her negative reaction to the noise. To treat her, Dr. Kappas recommended stabilizing the woman’s blood-sugar level through diet and used hypnosis to desensitize the client to loud noises.

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This 10-week weight-loss package is designed to help you shed extra pounds using hypnosis and therapeutic guided-imagery techniques. It is customized to your specific weight-loss goal, and materials are provided at each weekly session to help you keep track of your progress and maintain motivation throughout this program. In addition, a complimentary recording of the hypnosis portion of each session (CD or digital file) is provided at the end of each appointment to reinforce what you worked on that week. 

$1,250 for 10-week series. (This is a $250 savings!)  

Fee must be paid at the start of the program. This promotional discount may not be combined with any other offers.

Sara R. Fogan, C.Ht. is a certified hypnotherapist based in Southern California. She graduated with honors from the Hypnosis Motivation Institute in 2005. For more information about Calminsense Hypnotherapy® and to set up an appointment, please visit http://www.calminsensehypnotherapy.com/.

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